For my money, the social Aspect of work is pretty much counterweight to the actual work aspect. Often not being ‘the right fit’ doesn’t mean you don’t have the necessary skills to thrive but simply that your character jars with that of the company. It’s important not to take this personally as shoehorning your idiosyncrasies into a newer, more tailor-made version of yourself can snowball into faking an entire personality unnecessarily. Besides, you might find, people actual prefer you warts and all anyway. Playground theatrics and bullying are rife in many offices. They shouldn’t be, but humans are naturally competitive and struggle to shake off the behaviour learned in schoolyards. Often the pressure of laughing at a joke or agreeing with sentiment can be too great as the reward of group acceptance is a singularly brilliant feeling. Often that feeling of belonging will ware off if you feel that you are biting your tongue around your colleagues. Obviously, it isn’t ideal to be deliberately bullish and troublemaking but never become a ‘yes man’ for the sake of having an easy life. It will grant you immediate satisfaction but in the long run will leave you feeling hollow. Learning to be ...

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