"You see one, you see the other."

It is so hard to intervene because, by the time people outside of the relationship notice that a couple is Enmeshed in an unhealthy way, the bond has been set. 

This could be cute if it is healthy.  But what about when it is not? Now that veiled conversation starts to look and sound a bit different. 

Domestic Violence and Enmeshment

Enmeshment is a type of unhealthy relationship in which two people are overly dependent on each other, to the point where they lose their sense of individuality and autonomy. 

This can lead to several problems, including:

- Increased isolation: Enmeshed couples often isolate themselves from friends and family, which can make it difficult for the victim to get help or support.

- Control and manipulation: In an enmeshed relationship, one partner often tries to control the other partner's thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. This can lead to emotional abuse, manipulation, and even physical violence.

- Lack of boundaries: In an enmeshed relationship, there are often few or no boundaries between the partners. This can lead to conflict, resentment, and a feeling of being trapped.

- Increased risk of domestic violence: Enmeshment is a major risk factor for domestic violence. When two people are overly dependent on each other, it can be difficult for the victim to leave the relationship, even if it is abusive.

Here are some of the specific dangerous consequences of enmeshment in domestic violence relationships:

-Increased risk of physical violence: Enmeshed couples are more likely to experience physical violence than couples who have healthy boundaries. The lack of boundaries can make it difficult for the victim to escape or defend themselves from abuse.

- Increased risk of emotional abuse: Enmeshed couples are also more likely to experience emotional abuse, such as name-calling, belittling, and gaslighting.  The lack of boundaries makes it easier for the abuser to control the victim's thoughts and feelings.

- Increased risk of sexual violence: Enmeshed couples are also more likely to experience sexual violence, such as rape, sexual assault, and coercion.  The lack of boundaries makes it easier to facilitate sexual exploitation.

 Increased risk of homicide: Enmeshed couples are also more likely to experience homicide, either as victim or as perpetrator. 

If you are in an enmeshed relationship, it is important to get help immediately. This can help you to break free from the enmeshment and reduce your risk of experiencing domestic violence.