By Richard Kent Matthews - Coach | Author | Speaker
If you want it, you can have it. But you must want it.
"It's impossible," you say. "I've tried and tried but I just can't find the right job."
As long as you keep saying that, you're right. Stop saying that.
Shad Helmstetter, in his famous book What to Say When You Talk to Yourself, summarized the importance of changing our self talk. We literally speak our innermost truth into reality, so holding onto the negative chatter is a surefire way to keep yourself on the very path you say you disdain.
Here's a simple formula to help you change your talk, your direction, your mindset. Use it as you will. It's powerful, if you maintain it.
The great thing about this process is, not only can it help you to manifest your desires, it will also help clarify what those desires really are. In fact, after a couple of weeks, you may find you've tweaked your desire into an entirely new picture. That's a good thing. You come to understand your true inner cravings and you also get to help them manifest in the outer terrain of your experience. Win/win!
Have fun. Don't take it too seriously. In the end, you'll get the job, or start the business, or retreat to Switzerland, or whatever it is you finally recognize as your heart's desire.
It's simple. It's clarity. It's the good life!
*Just as a heads up, not everyone in your life will be thrilled as you manifest your desires. Why? They have a vested interest in how you are, right now. Just be prepared. Ease them gently onto your new pathway. They love you but change is always a bit scary.
Please share your comments. I always like different views on whatever I share. Thanks.
If you want it, you can have it. But you must want it.
"It's impossible," you say. "I've tried and tried but I just can't find the right job."
As long as you keep saying that, you're right. Stop saying that.
Shad Helmstetter, in his famous book What to Say When You Talk to Yourself, summarized the importance of changing our self talk. We literally speak our innermost truth into reality, so holding onto the negative chatter is a surefire way to keep yourself on the very path you say you disdain.
Here's a simple formula to help you change your talk, your direction, your mindset. Use it as you will. It's powerful, if you maintain it.
- First, get clear on what you want, what it is you really Desire. (Job? Lover? Condo?)
- Second, develop a plan of action and put it in writing. Make it a positive plan, no negatives allowed. (Present tense, please.)
- Third, begin to daily visualize your plan coming into form. See it in detail. Speak it, sing it, laugh it, do whatever it takes to get it into your daily practice. (Highly recommended: Creative Visualization by Shakti Gawain.)
- Fourth, Focus on the plan. Choose a small portion of your visualized picture and focus upon it as often as possible. Be clear, be determined. Focus. (Focus can be difficult so that's why you need just a small Snap Chat-like pic of your desire on which to fixate.)
- Fifth, begin to take small steps in the direction of your visualized and focused goal. Small steps. Don't overwhelm yourself. (Practice Kaizen.)
- Sixth, commit to the process. Do not waver. Doubts will enter. Kick them downstairs! (Doubts serve a purpose, but in this case, shoo them back to their corner.)
- Seventh, evaluate your progress. Watch for areas needing improvement, or a change of direction. We don't always get our picture exactly as we want it the first time so this is your chance to tweak it. Gently, sincerely, without guilt or remorse. (Desires are funny sometimes. We think we really want something, only to discover it really sucks to have it. The old expression "Be careful what you wish for" applies here. But just keep tweaking. Ultimately, you'll discover where your heart, your career path, your adventures really lie.)
- Eighth, after a short time, evaluate the outcomes, the small daily changes happening around you, in you, and through you. If you've been paying attention, you'll notice them. (Like the butterfly who flaps its wings and changes the weather somewhere, everything you do in this manifestation process disturbs the status quo. Be on the lookout for not only the neat little surprises that show you you're on target, but also the naysayers who may not like where you're headed.*)
- Ninth and finally, accept the desired outcome as if it has already happened. 'Act as if,' as the gurus say. (As you talk differently to yourself, see yourself in new pictures, and slowly improve in all areas of your life, you won't have to do so much acting. But until that happens, walk around like you've already accomplished your goal: New job, new lover, new home, new heart, new life.)
The great thing about this process is, not only can it help you to manifest your desires, it will also help clarify what those desires really are. In fact, after a couple of weeks, you may find you've tweaked your desire into an entirely new picture. That's a good thing. You come to understand your true inner cravings and you also get to help them manifest in the outer terrain of your experience. Win/win!
Have fun. Don't take it too seriously. In the end, you'll get the job, or start the business, or retreat to Switzerland, or whatever it is you finally recognize as your heart's desire.
It's simple. It's clarity. It's the good life!
*Just as a heads up, not everyone in your life will be thrilled as you manifest your desires. Why? They have a vested interest in how you are, right now. Just be prepared. Ease them gently onto your new pathway. They love you but change is always a bit scary.
Please share your comments. I always like different views on whatever I share. Thanks.
