Question:

I have been married for about seven years now and have known my Wife for over ten years. Throughout our marriage, we have had our ups and downs, but we’ve always worked it out. Over the last couple of years our arguments have increased and has caused both of us to become distant to one another. I’ve tried to reason with her but it seems like nothing works and she has moved on. I realized this about a year and a half ago, and started to move on myself I moved out the house, got my own place and even met an amazing women. Then as we were finally getting close to finalizing our divorce out of nowhere she tells me she wants to work our marriage out and fix our broken family. Now it’s hard for me to do so, because I’ve caught feelings for someone else and not to mention my wife hurt me so bad in the past that it’s difficult for me to let go. My question is should I forgive my wife and fix my family or move on and enjoy my new found happiness?

Answer:

This question is quite a conundrum that many couples married or non-married face. You stated that “our arguments have increased and has caused both of us to become distant to one another” this statement suggests you ‘all were not communicating with each other. Which in any relationship will cause problems and could potentially ruin a relationship. You also said you started to move on about a year and half ago which is not a long time but, a sustainable amount of time to make a decision. Whether or not this decision was made, because your wife had ended your relationship is not clear. But what is clear is that you have to weigh your options and take some time to think before you make any rash decisions. In the end, you have to consider if you have really moved on from your wife and you’re ready to close that chapter in your life or do you want to mend your differences with your wife. The choice is truly yours, but just remember no matter what you decide honesty is the best way to go for all parties included in this situation.

What are your thoughts have you ever had trouble communicating in a relationship?

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