Hello everyone this is the first “Ask Jay” I want to thank everyone who sent me questions. Today I have decided to answer a very interesting question that I’m sure everyone can relate to. I hope you all enjoy this new section of my blog and don’t forget if you have any questions submit them here!

Question:

I have been reading your blog for a while now and I Love the advice you give. So I was wondering can you give me your opinion about why do men make you fall in love with them when they DON’T HAVE ANY intention of having a real commitment or marriage. This has been a topic that me and my friends have discussed for quite sometime and haven’t been able to pinpoint an answer. For example, I was dating a guy for two years and he never had any intention of making me his girlfriend. I never understood this because he treated me as his girlfriend just without the tittle. The whole time we were dating he never told he wasn’t looking for a relationship he made it seem like he wanted a serious relationship. Then after I stopped talking to him and blocked his number. I found out he is now in a new relationship and it has only been a few months.  I would love to hear your thoughts.

– Anonymous

Answer:

Hello,

Well first things first I want to thank you for reading my blog!  Now to answer your question it can be an array of reasons why men “DON’T HAVE ANY intention of having a commitment”, but still give you affection and show you what some people may perceived as love. Many times men do this for various reasons i.e. they have feelings for you but don’t see a future with you, they just want sex/affection or they are selfish/immature. Immaturity can sometimes cloud a guy’s mind towards relationships epically if he’s in his 20’s even through age doesn’t always equal  maturity.  Also the situation you’ve described sounds like what I like to call “he’s really not that into you”.  This is why he moved on rather swiftly and got in a relationship. This is not say he was right by any means, but this is usually the case when a guy moves on in the way you’ve described.  The moral of this situation is before we give our heart to anyone we need to make sure we communicate what we really want. No matter if it risks us loosing that person we have to be honest about what we want.

What are your thoughts have you been in this situation before? Comment below.

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