Question:

So I have a friend that I have known for years and we have a great Relationship. Recently she has gotten a engaged to who I thought was great guy. About four months into their engagement I was at the mall when I saw my friend’s finance. When I saw him I waved, but I guess he didn’t see me when I noticed he was with a women. At first all my petty spidey sense started to tingly then I thought maybe it was his sister, cousin or something. Then I saw him grab her on the butt this was alarming and caused my mind to think the worst. I wanted to tell my friend what I saw but I’m not sure if I should, because in the past when similar situations would occur. She would get upset and not believe me even if what I knew was true. So Jay what should I do tell my friend or just keep what I saw to myself?

– Anonymous

Answer:

This is common issue I see in friendships all the time. Before I could give you an answer I would ask you to ask yourself how how much do you value your friendship? This is imperative to know, because if she is your close friend and you value the relationship you should take that into consideration before you decide to tell her or not. Simply put, this is a sticky situation, because if you do tell your friend it could go either two ways she is thankful that you told her or upset and she might think you made the whole thing up. On the other hand if you don’t tell your friend she could marry this guy and he could be a cheater and end up causing more problems down the road. In the end you have to ask yourself honestly if the shoe was on the other foot would you want her to tell you?

What are your thoughts should she tell her friend what she saw?

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