Question:

Hello Jay I wanted your Advice about something that has been stressing me out lately.  I’ve been trying to make some major changes in my life over the past few years.  I’ve started the journey of changing my profession to my passion.  My passion is fashion untimely I want to become a fashion journalist/ blogger.  But my issue is how long it’s actually taking me to make this a reality I’ve been working hard especially lately plus I haven’t really seen much result.  Can you give me any suggestions or advice on how to stay focus on my goals.

– Anonymous

Answer:

This was an interesting question that I find many people who are going after their dreams have trouble with. The difficult nature of making changes means that you will likely be putting in effort that will take you far beyond the point at which it is inspiring or fun. This stage is what I like to call “The Grind”, which starts when actions necessary to produce meaningful change become stressful, exhausting ,and tedious. Simply put if we really want something we have to ask ourselves two key questions. One “how bad do we want it” two “What are we willing to exchange for success”. Once we ask ourselves these questions can determine if we’re really focused and want to pursue our dreams.  This stage can last awhile until we can truly reach our end goal sometimes it can take years to finally reach them. One suggestion that I tell anyone who are chasing their dreams is to “stay patient and consistent”.  We need patience because going through this stage can take a toll on our mind. Being consistent and adopting a never give up mantra is imperative to getting through the Grind stage. The Grind may not feel very good, but what does feel good is seeing your efforts pay off with the changes you want.

“You neither love nor hate this process simply accept it as part of the deal in striving toward a better you”

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