While it’s tradition for a bride’s Father to Walk her down the aisle on her wedding day, many brides choose to break that tradition. However, if their fathers are still in their lives and aren’t asked to walk her down the aisle, drama can occur.
One woman didn’t want her biological father, who she doesn’t have much of a relationship with, to walk her down the aisle. However, because her dad is still around, she’s getting a lot of grief for it.
She’s 31 and married her 35-year-old husband a few weeks ago. They had been together for four years, and she was so excited to marry her best friend.
While planning her wedding, she had strong feelings about who was going to walk her down the aisle. She knew she didn’t want it to be her dad from the start.
“Growing up, my father wasn’t around [because] he had another family after he and my mum spit,” she said.
“[He] had my two brothers while my mom had my youngest brother with one of her boyfriends. After all these years, my parents have finally gotten back together and [re-married], though I’ll admit, I hold a grudge [against] my father because he left me and my mom. I know that my parents were fighting, but it still hurts knowing he left me to have another family.”
Because of her family history, she was 100% sure she didn’t feel connected to her dad enough to have him give her away at her wedding. So, weeks before the wedding, she got coffee with her father-in-law and asked him if he’d walk her down the aisle.
Her father-in-law was a bit hesitant to say yes because he knew her dad was back in her life, but she was insistent that he do it and told him he was more of a father figure to her than her biological dad.
“He happily said yes,” she recalled.
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“When I explained this to my mom before the wedding, she told me she understood why [I did it] but was very disappointed. My father said nothing.”
Her wedding went beautifully, and she was happy when her father-in-law gave her away. But then, during the reception, her half-brother on her dad’s side approached her and told her she was an “awful human being” for taking a “valuable moment” away from her dad. He implied that since she’s her dad’s only daughter, she should’ve let him give her away.
Since the wedding, her dad’s relatives have been texting her to tell her how upset they are that her dad didn’t walk her down the aisle.
Should she feel bad for not choosing her dad, or did she make the right choice?
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