Sometimes, a couple may seem like they’d be perfect for raising children together since they seem so in love. However, even if a couple is great together, it doesn’t always mean they’ll be instantly amazing at parenting together. 

One man is unsure what to do after his Wife has gotten worse about taking over how they parent their sons and dismisses his concerns and beliefs.

He’s 37 and has two young sons with his wife. The eldest is four, and their youngest is a year old. Unfortunately, their marriage has been strained since his wife got pregnant with their first son.

He thought they could work on their relationship and solve this issue for a while, but it’s only gotten worse, and he doesn’t know where to go from here.

His main issue with his wife is that although they live together and raise their boys together, she’s taken over the parenting and dominates how their sons are raised.

“It started with naming them, [as] she chose both our kid’s names, and I really had no influence,” he explained.

“The one time I did speak my mind about it was when I said I would love the name Jamie for one of our children. She told me she could not see Jamie [used by] a grown man, and his name would be Thomas. I asked her why she chose without me when we had agreed baby names should be chosen together. She said she thought we had both changed our minds because she was [the one] giving birth.”

His wife dominating their sons’ lifestyles did not stop there. His wife insists on doing what she wants with them and only using the supplies she likes, from diapers to clothing. If he ever tries to buy something new or assemble an outfit for his sons, she dismisses him and does things her way.

Now that their eldest son is getting older, his wife’s controlling behavior has gotten more concerning.

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“She said she will decide what extracurricular [activities] they do, [what] food [they eat] and the school [they attend],” he said.

“It gets on my nerves. My oldest and I play house together, and it bothers her. She told me we should be kicking a ball around.”

While he and his family were going to his wife’s parents’ house for a visit, he spoke up and told her he wasn’t happy with the idea of his wife picking out their eldest’s extracurricular activities right away.

He believes their son should be allowed to experiment and try out what he wants as he gets older instead of being told what to do.

His wife told him that was her decision to make, which really irked him. He doesn’t remember her ever being this controlling or wanting to be this controlling before they had kids.

They argued back and forth for a while until they got to his in-law’s house, where his wife thought it would be appropriate to tell her parents about what they were arguing about.

“[She was] saying how I should default to her as their mother, and [her parents were] agreeing with her, asking me why I try to interfere and [saying] that’s not the role of a father,” he recalled.

“I turned around and asked her why she bothered having a father for them when she clearly wanted to be a single mother.”

Since then, his wife and her parents have been furious with him. 

Should he apologize for what he said, or was his anger valid?

You can read the original post on Reddit here.