This woman had been seeing a man named Tom for nine months. But, the entire time, she had absolutely no idea that Tom was actually married and she was “the other woman.”

However, she eventually found out that Tom wasn’t just married; he also had two children with his Wife. So, she confronted him about his cheating, but he claimed his marriage was loveless – which was why he decided to have an affair.

Quite frankly, though, she didn’t care. Rather, she gave Tom an ultimatum – telling him that he either needed to reveal his affair to his wife or she would expose it for him.

“I gave him grace to let him confess because he has always been good to me,” she recalled.

“He confessed that evening. He also left her that evening.”

Then, for the following two weeks, there was “radio silence.” Well, until Tom’s wife began harassing her.

In the beginning, his wife just wanted to know details about their affair and what had happened. But, over time, Tom’s wife started to get more agitated and even began blaming her for the downfall of their marriage.

“I contacted Tom, and he told me that his wife buried her head in the sand to not address the state of their marriage. I just forced her to face reality,” she explained.

While talking to Tom, she also asked him what his plans were. At that point, he claimed to be “figuring it out” and admitted that he’d gone on a few dates with other women over the last two weeks.

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Tom’s wife still hasn’t stopped blaming her for the affair, though. In fact, she receives texts every day from the woman, who keeps calling her a homewrecker.

“I sometimes feel I should have just kept my mouth shut. What was I even trying to achieve? I thought I was doing the right thing,” she said.

Ever since Tom’s affair was exposed, she also keeps finding herself stalking his social media accounts. She realized that he’d already posted photos with other women he’d been on dates with, and it was making her feel sad.

To be clear, she definitely doesn’t want to take Tom back. Nonetheless, she still had a great time with him before she learned the truth, and she’s mourning their memories together.

“Why couldn’t he have just left his wife before meeting me?” she vented.

“All I achieved was sadness and harassment, and I am being blamed for being a homewrecker. I feel I should have just left without a word.”

So now, she can’t help but wonder if forcing Tom to come clean about their affair was really the right thing to do.

Can you understand why she thought she was doing the right thing? Does she deserve to be on the receiving end of the harassment, or should Tom’s wife be angry at him? How do you suggest she handles this?

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