For six years so far, this 31-year-old man has been with his 28-year-old wife, though they only tied the knot a month and a half ago.

He used to be head over heels in love with his wife, and when he proposed to her in February of last year, that was still the case.

Along the way, the newness and passion died out, but he says they were able to develop a profound and deep connection that replaced the honeymoon phase.

As soon as they got engaged, their Relationship began to crumble. They began arguing over the littlest details, and the whole Wedding planning process turned into a nightmare.

“We began to spend less and less time on dates and enjoying each other’s company, and the relationship kind of turned transactional,” he explained.

“It was all about achieving tasks for the wedding. Before getting engaged, I was completely certain about marrying this girl, but after all of this, I started doubting our relationship and our decision to marry.”

“After reading other people’s experiences online, I concluded that this was just part of the process of organizing a wedding for some couples, and in most of the cases I read about, things got better after the “big day.”

Several months into their engagement, he ended up meeting a 26-year-old girl at the gym. He was instantly attracted to her, and he could tell she liked him too.

Eventually, this girl asked him if he was in a relationship, and he lied to her and said that he did not have a girlfriend.

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A few weeks passed after that conversation, and he admitted to this gym girl that he had lied to her face.

“I told her I said “no” because I liked her but that I wasn’t comfortable lying and wanted her to know I was, in fact, in a relationship,” he said.

“She was cool about it, said she was informally dating someone too, and that she liked me too. We agreed to remain as friends. I didn’t say I was getting Married.”

“Months went by, and I began feeling the pressure. I was getting closer to marriage with a girl I had not been comfortable with since I proposed, and my “friendship” with this new girl was getting better and better. Probably dumb of me, but I figured I should just go ahead with it and have a little fling so that I could get it out of my chest before being officially married.”

Initially, he asked the gym girl if he could kiss her, which is something he has never done before. In the past, he always just went in for a kiss without asking for permission first.

However, he decided to do things differently with the gym girl, as he felt it was important for her to be in the driver’s seat since she knew he was in a committed relationship.

The gym girl agreed to kiss him, and they made out several times. He tried to take things further, but she pointed out that she was uneasy with it, given the fact that he was about to get married.

One week before his wedding day, he asked the gym girl out so they could have a conversation. He intended to just clear the air with her and ensure that they could carry on with their lives as normal.

“She said she was cool and not in love with me, so I was glad she wouldn’t be hurt,” he continued. “I wanted to tell her about my upcoming marriage, so I gauged the water but sensed no interest from her.”

“After the “serious” talk, we just kept chatting about other things for a while. The chemistry was really good, however, and we ended up kissing again, supposedly for the last time. That following weekend I got married and was so relieved. No more planning, no more tasks, and finally, time to enjoy ourselves. The wedding was great, and we both were genuinely happy.”

“After the wedding, however, I started feeling depressed and disconnected from my wife. It’s been a month and a half since and things have not improved for us. I’ve been feeling this sensation when everything the other person does feels annoying, even things that I know are irrelevant or things I used to like about her. I hate feeling this way.”

One more thing: he cannot get the gym girl out of his mind. He ran into her not too long ago, and he finally confessed to her about getting married.

She was shocked, and he then let her know that he can’t quit thinking about her. She admitted she feels the same way and that her feelings for him go further than simply being attracted to him in a physical sense.

He sensed she was somehow disappointed as if she wanted them to try to be together and have that shot.

“She said that whatever was going on between the two of us “felt right,” he added. “She is dating a new guy but said it doesn’t feel as “right.”

“We kissed again, said goodbye, and have not spoken since. What should I do? I honestly don’t want to hurt anybody. Should I suck it up, forget about this girl, work on my marriage, and hope it improves with time and work? Or should I break it up as soon as possible, suffer the social and financial blow, and follow my feelings?”

“I went ahead with the wedding anyway because I worry that after enough time, I’ll feel the same with the new girl (or with any girl, for that matter). As I said, my wife hasn’t done anything wrong, really, it’s just the monotony of almost a decade of being with the same person that’s killing me. Especially now that I’m feeling all these thrills and emotions with someone new. Or is there some middle ground where the three of us are happy?”

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