Last weekend, this 29-year-old woman’s husband, Charles, 30, attended his brother’s Bachelor Party. His brother, Frank, 28, is engaged to Jess, 26, and before the bachelor party, Jess specified that she didn’t want his party to be anything too outrageous.

Jess thought it’d be “disrespectful and unnecessary” if Frank and his friends went partying at a club. She’s close friends with Jess, and leading up to the party, Jess told her, Frank, and all of Frank’s friends that if Frank went to a club, she’d end their engagement.

“They went to a club and kept it a secret from Jess. I only found out because Charles was logged into his Facebook on my iPad, and I saw the messages. They had a code word and everything for it in case they wanted to talk about it around Jess,” she said.

When she discovered that Frank and his friends, including Charles, lied to Jess and hid what they did for the bachelor party, she talked to Charles about it. He claimed they did the usual antics involved at a bachelor party.

She questioned whether anyone at the party had mentioned to Frank that Jess specifically stated she didn’t want them to go to a club.

“He said no because, ‘What she doesn’t know can’t hurt her,’ and, ‘The boys have Frank’s back.’ I was disgusted by this, and I told Charles that if no one is going to tell her, then I will,” she explained.

Charles was furious with her response, telling her it wasn’t her business. According to him, they hadn’t done anything they should feel ashamed of, adding that Frank didn’t have an affair on the night of his bachelor party.

He warned her that if she spilled the beans to Jess, she would be at fault for ending Frank and Jess’s engagement.

Even though she doesn’t have an issue with men going to clubs for their bachelor parties, she has an issue with Frank and his friends completely disregarding Jess’s comfort level and boundaries by going to a club. Since they hid it from her, she felt it was her duty to tell Jess the truth.

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“I knew Charles was going to delete the chat, so I took pictures on my phone before I confronted him and sent the messages to Jess. Jess was livid. My marriage was already in a rocky place. This just solidified that I did not want to continue my marriage because I did not trust Charles or his friends. If they are keeping this from her, what are they keeping from me?” she shared.

After breaking the news to Jess on Monday, Jess broke up with Frank and moved out. Jess is staying with her parents until she can find a place. Since the breakup, Frank has been calling her repeatedly, claiming she destroyed his life.

Charles said that the trust was broken and told her he was thinking of filing for divorce. In his view, her actions were why his friends weren’t speaking to him anymore.

Several of Frank’s and Jess’s family members have name-called her, angry that she destroyed, as they said, “what could have been a happy marriage.” Most of the wedding had already been paid for by this point, and much of that money was nonrefundable.

What would you have done if you were in her shoes?

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