For some people who have siblings close to their age, one of their biggest nightmares is that their sibling will enter a relationship with someone they can’t stand.

One woman is upset after finding out her brother is engaged to someone she didn’t like in high School, and now her family is disappointed that she’s not happier for her brother.

She’s 19-years-old and has a 22-year-old brother named Harry. She and Harry were very close when they were little kids but began communicating less and didn’t get to spend as much quality time together once they went to college.

Much to her dismay, while her brother was in college, he began dating a girl from their high school named Jessica. Jessica is a year older than her and made quite the impression while they were in school together. Unfortunately, it was a bad impression.

“[Jessica] was not what you would call a kind soul,” she explained.

“She had a particularly nasty streak. She would not pay attention during class and always tried to cheat off of people’s homework, she tried to steal my boyfriend, [and] she bullied one of my best friends, calling her fat, among other things.”

Jessica’s bullying of her best friend was especially memorable and sad, as it worsened an eating disorder her friend had. After that, she never saw Jessica the same and would never forget the person she was back then.

Six months ago, after Jessica and Harry had been dating for over a year, she tried having a heart-to-heart with Harry to warn him about Jessica.

She told Harry about Jessica’s actions in high school and told him she had some concerns about her behavior and what she would do to him in a relationship. Harry told her he’d consider what she said, and everything seemed normal.

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However, during a recent Zoom call with her family, Harry announced that he and Jessica were engaged, which took her completely off-guard.

“When Harry told us, everyone but me was pretty enthusiastic, but I just sighed and said nothing,” she recalled.

“Harry didn’t display any reaction towards my admittedly lukewarm reaction, but afterward, my mom called me and told me I was rude for not being excited. She said I need to respect all members of the family, including Jessica, and that I need to reconsider my behavior if I want to be invited to our [family] vacation in the spring.”

To make matters worse, she’s convinced Harry told Jessica about their conversation a few months ago, as not long after they got engaged, Jessica posted a photo of her engagement ring with the caption, “I know not everyone in our families [is] supportive, but we have each other, and that’s what matters.”

Now, she’s torn between biting her tongue and accepting that Harry and Jessica are staying together or continuing to voice her concern over Jessica’s behavior so that her family knows the truth about her past.

What would you do if you were in her position?

You can read the original post on Reddit here.