There’s no denying that there are plenty of perks to being single. But sometimes, being single really sucks. Not only do you have to contend with the awful dating scene, but you also have to deal with all those unpleasant remarks and unsolicited advice from literally everyone you encounter.
People generally mean well, but they often miss the mark with painfully overused phrases. TikToker Lex (@alexaaaval) is sharing some of the things she hates being told as a single 28-year-old woman. Here are a few of the comments she hears on a regular basis.
“Good for you.”
In response to informing people that she is single, Lex often is told, “Good for you.” She explains that the phrase confuses her, especially because she usually hears it from married couples or people in relationships, and questions if it’s supposed to make her feel better about her romantic life.
“I think the undertone to this message is like ‘good for you’ for not settling maybe? Or just for not being with someone because you think you have to be. I don’t know,” she speculated.
“Live your life.”
Lex states that this phrase is pointless because she has already been living her life for the past twenty or so years; therefore, a change in her relationship status will not have an effect on that.
“That comment to me makes it sound like when you have a boyfriend or a significant other, you just stop living your life and focus on them when, in reality, it’s so important to maintain your individuality when you’re in a relationship,” said Lex.
It seems to imply a lot about that commenter’s own life. Do they feel like their significant other is holding them back? Do they secretly wish they were single again?
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“Put yourself out there more.”
To Lex, being told that she needs to put herself out there irritates her more than anything. She is someone who does not use dating Apps and argues that whenever she goes out in public, she is putting herself out there.
In her video, she stated that it was entirely possible to meet the love of her life during a chance encounter, such as running errands or shopping for groceries. Some individuals may believe that she is not trying hard enough with this method, but she noted that even if she did go out with the intention of finding a romantic partner, it still wouldn’t guarantee that she would meet someone.
“I think when people say this, it really means you should get on dating apps and like date people,” said Lex. “Newsflash: not everyone likes to use dating apps and actually wants to meet their person the old-fashioned way.”
She also mentioned that the people who usually say this comment are the type to never go out and do not have any hobbies. Lex believes that if the roles were reversed, those people would not be putting themselves out there as much as she has been.
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