A 34-year-old man is married to his Wife, who is 30, and his wife celebrated her birthday several weeks ago.

His wife made it very clear to him what she wanted for her birthday present; a particular bracelet.

He went out and purchased the bracelet, which was $300, and the money he used to buy it came out of his own Separate Bank Account.

He and his wife have an agreement that when they buy presents for one another, they do not use their joint bank account. Instead, they use their own bank accounts to make Gift purchases.

He admitted that money is a problem for them right now and it was hard for him to spend $300 on her gift, but he did it anyway because he wanted to make sure his wife felt special.

When the day of his wife’s birthday arrived, she opened up the bracelet and she was overjoyed about it. She even wore it as soon as she opened it.

Afterward, he discovered that his wife had bought something for herself already to celebrate her birthday; a $900 necklace.

The thing is, she used the money from his own separate bank account to buy the necklace for herself.

“I asked why she bought herself a gift knowing I already purchased her a gift and asked why she used my money,” he explained.

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“She nervously said she wasn’t sure that I was going to get her anything for her birthday and so she planned ahead and bought the necklace. She said that she used my money because …obviously the gift is supposed to come from me.”

He was very upset that she went out and spent $900 on a gift for herself, especially since he did get her a present. On top of that, money is tight for them and $900 is a lot.

He said to his wife that he bought the exact gift she told him she wanted, so he expected her to return the $900 necklace she got.

His wife told him she wasn’t going to return the necklace at all, before accusing him of being “selfish” and “heartless” for suggesting she do that.

She offered to return the $300 bracelet he had purchased for her, but he argued back about that. In the end, she did return the necklace, but not before calling him “a controlling jerk” who doesn’t care about how she feels at all.

His wife even dragged her sister into their disagreement, and her sister said some really unkind things to him. Two weeks have now passed since this whole thing, and his wife really isn’t speaking to him at all now.

Here’s what the internet had to say.

“Holy cow, money is not tight for our family, but I would freak out (in a bad way) if my husband bought me something for $900! That is insane, setting aside the fact that she STOLE the money.”

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“I ain’t saying she a golddigger….”

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“…Your wife isn’t someone you can trust with access to any of your accounts. Not only did she steal from you, she did it sneakily so you only know because you found it when caught she had no shame, isn’t sorry, doesn’t think she did anything wrong stealing from you, and wasn’t even willing to return what she stole when caught.”

“She is now angry at you and involving her family in bashing and pressuring you for not rolling over and saying it was cool and she could keep it when you caught her stealing from you.”

“It’s honestly hard to see how she could be any less worthy of your trust.”

“This would be a deal-breaker for me. She steals from you, doesn’t respect you, and doesn’t care about your feelings.”

“But since you seem to want to be married to this woman (????) you need to take all of your money and move it to a new account at a new bank and not tell her where it is. Be sure to tell the bank there are no other authorized users and that your wife is not authorized.”

“Cancel any credit cards you have and get new ones that you keep where she can’t access them. Check all credit card statements carefully, and check your credit occasionally to make sure she hasn’t taken out anything in your name.”

“Also, if it was me (and I wanted to be married to her), I’d take back the $300 bracelet too and return it.”

“I’d tell her you don’t buy birthday gifts for thieves who rob me, I am extremely disappointed in her, my trust in her is broken, and she has seriously damaged your marriage. That if she cares she needs to show me she realizes what she did is wrong and work over time to regain my trust.”

“But then again, I have basic self-respect and don’t let myself be treated like carp. The fact that you accept this sort of behavior from your wife and she’s the one now punishing you by being angry at you tells me that you don’t have the self-respect and self-worth you should.”

“That’s very sad. You should work on that. Please stop and think about why you accept this sort of treatment.”

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“I feel like so many comments are (rightly) focusing on the $900 gift but what really pissed me off was that she volunteered to return the gift he actually picked.”

“Suddenly it’s not good enough and who cares about the sentiment of his picking it out for her. She just wanted the more expensive one.”

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You can read the rest of what the internet had to say to her here.