When I first came across this Book, I will admit that I was embarrassed to be seen with it in public. I didn’t want people thinking I was some crazy man-hating feminist. The beauty of this book though is that is taught me to not be so embarrassed of having pride in my own gender.

 Spinster by Katie Bolick is a book that originally has the idea of teaching us why it’s okay to not get married but instead veers off a bit and teaches us about some really awesome women who were able to be independent during a time when independence was looked down upon. In this book I learned so much about what life could be as a Woman who maybe doesn’t want to get married and pop out three kids before thirty. Instead, I was opened up to the possibilities of what a woman with a career would look like. However, I don’t mean to say that a woman can’t have a career and a wonderful white picket fence marriage, it is just nice to realize that neither of these things need to be rushed into.

Bolick really strikes a chord with me in her opening line “Whom to marry, and when will it happen- these two questions define a woman’s existence.” This is honestly so accurate, it took my breath away a bit. From the moment we pop out of our mama’s uterus, the question of who we will marry looms over our heads like an ax. It is something most women can admit to and also admit to succumbing to. The great thing about this book, though, is that it teaches us that a woman’s life is comprised of so much more than this question. By studying radically independent women, Bolick creates a compilation of inspirational histories that knocks us right into realizing just how much we want out of life. There is so much more to a woman than having babies, getting married and maybe having a decent career. A woman is an intelligent and kind creature that doesn’t necessarily need to be tied down by our culture’s definition of a proper life.

In all honesty, I loved this book because it helped me to realize that even if I am alone, that doesn’t mean I’ve failed.

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