Every Man’s Battle (2000) is aimed at Christian men who want to live a sexually pure life. It explains what that means and how to do it, giving practical tips for rising above Temptation.

Introduction: Break your bad habits and become pure.

For Christian men, it often feels like temptation is everywhere.

No matter how strong your faith, and no matter how much you love your wife, it’s hard to ignore what’s around you: provocative ads, the attractive women you encounter each day, and porn that’s available 24/7.

If you feel you’re alone in your struggle – know that you’re not.

And if you feel like there’s something wrong with you – there isn’t.

While you shouldn’t feel ashamed of your urges, if you’re a Christian, you should want to change.

In this Blink, you’ll learn some simple, practical ways to break unhelpful sexual habits. And as part of the process, you’ll discover how to rekindle the spark with your wife.

Keep in mind that this Blink contains some explicit content. You can’t tackle the issue unless you face it openly and honestly.

So, if you’re ready for some frank discussion, and a bit of self-reflection, let’s get into it …

Christians should aim for sexual purity

As a man, you can’t help but look. When an attractive woman jogs past, or your co-worker wears a low-cut top, of course you’re going to notice.

Maybe you look at porn too, and try to justify it to yourself afterwards. Surely it’s not that bad. Or is it?

Before we answer that question, let’s take a moment to acknowledge something. Yes, it’s normal for men to look at women – to seek sexual gratification from a visual source.

We’re wired that way. The sight of nudity, or even just the hint of nudity, goes straight to the pleasure center in our brains. While women are stimulated by touch and relationships, men are visual creatures.

So, it’s natural to eye up that attractive jogger. And it’s natural to get turned on by the sight of a woman in lingerie, whether or not she’s your wife.

But just because it’s natural, that doesn’t make it right. As Christians, we should be holding ourselves to a higher standard – God’s standard.

In other words, the goal is sexual purity.

You may be wondering what that means in practical terms.

Well, it means you should get your sexual gratification from your wife – and only your wife. No one else, and nothing else.

So no, you can’t ogle other women, or masturbate, or look at porn and tell yourself it’s okay. When it comes to sexual purity, the Bible is clear. There are no exceptions, and there’s no middle ground.

In the New Testament, there are countless references to God’s standard of purity. According to Corinthians, the body isn’t meant for sexual immorality – it’s intended for Lord God and His work. And in Matthew, Jesus says that simply looking at a woman with desire is a form of adultery.

These are just two of many examples. So, as you can see, there’s no ambiguity. God wants us to avoid any kind of sexual immorality, and be pure in our thoughts, words and actions.

But even with the best intentions, it can be hard for Christians to stick to these standards.

We live in a sex-obsessed society. And we have access to a plethora of images and videos, 24 hours a day. With your smartphone in hand, how do you resist the urge to look?

Well, it’s not easy. But with willpower and persistence, any man can win the battle.

Let’s explore how you can improve your defenses for the battle you face every day.

Use your brain’s neuroplasticity to break bad habits

Let’s begin by looking at a case study.

Ethan was a happily married father and Christian who spent Mondays at home with his toddler daughter. Around lunchtime, when his daughter took a nap – he’d feel drawn towards the computer for a session of porn and masturbation.

The urge was irresistible. So how could Ethan break the habit?

Well, consider that it was precisely that: a habit – one he had created.

Through repeated behavior, Ethan had essentially programmed himself. Each session at the computer gave him a surge of dopamine, affecting the pleasure centers in his brain.

Soon, Ethan’s brain started to expect this dopamine boost on Mondays at lunchtime, making it increasingly difficult for him to resist the temptation of online porn.

In order to break the habit, Ethan had to work on rewiring his neural pathways. Luckily, that’s a lot simpler than it sounds.

You see, the brain is surprisingly flexible. Thanks to something called neuroplasticity, we can actually mold our brains through our behavior.

That’s what Ethan had done in the first place, through his porn habit. But we can mold our brains in positive ways too.

Remember this – we have control. We’re not helpless victims of our habits.

Once Ethan realized this, things became easier. He wrote a list of other things he could do on Mondays while his daughter took her nap – doing the dishes, calling a friend, or listening to a sermon on a podcast.

Week after week, he consciously decided to do something else, instead of sitting in front of the computer.

After a while, Ethan no longer associated Monday lunchtimes with sexual pleasure. He had effectively changed his neural pathways, and his brain had unlearned the habit.

Ethan broke his habit through a series of conscious decisions. And by using a similar strategy, you can too.

Take a moment to think about your own bad habits – behaviors inconsistent with sexual purity. It might be watching porn, or fantasizing about other women. You might even remember how it became a habit in the first place. But regardless, now it’s time for a change.

Of course, change takes time, so don’t expect instant results. You’ll usually start to see your habits shift after six weeks of consistent effort and determination.

But the point is, you can do it. You just have to make the decision to change, then follow through. And you can take comfort in knowing that every time you make a better choice, you’re living God’s word.

So what are you waiting for?

Learn to look away

In a moment, we’ll explore a strategy you can use on your path to purity. But first, let’s look at the reasoning behind it.

To reiterate, our aim here is sexual purity. That means the only thing that should give you gratification is your wife.

But there are other potential sources of gratification. Some might be visual, such as images, videos, or the sight of women in real life. Or they might be mental – like your private thoughts and fantasies.

If you think about it, masturbation is the symptom of impurity, not the root cause. The root is usually a visual source, like online porn, or a mental source, like an erotic fantasy.

To achieve purity then, we must protect our eyes and minds from these forms of stimulation. So, we need to set up a defense, starting with the eyes. To do this, you can use a practice called bouncing your eyes.

This is what you’re going to do – you’re going to train your eyes to “bounce away” from sensual sights and images.

You see a woman in a skimpy dress … You look away immediately.

You see a provocative image on a billboard … You look away immediately.

Basically, you bounce your eyes, over and over again, until it becomes automatic. With practice, it should turn into a reflex, like when you get too close to a hot stove – you instantly snap your hand away.

Of course, you’re probably used to bouncing your eyes towards women and sensual images. That’s how men are programmed.

And while society acts like it’s harmless behavior, it’s not. It leads to men objectifying women. And it’s certainly not how God wants us to behave. So, this is another habit you’ll have to unlearn.

To help you with this practice, become aware of your personal triggers. Where do you find yourself looking most often? Reflect on this and make a list of specific visuals. For example, your trigger might be certain types of ads, women in tight sportswear, or online porn.

Once you’ve identified your triggers, you need to come up with a line of defense. What are you going to do when you encounter a trigger?

For instance, say you find yourself looking at female joggers. This was the predicament one of the authors found himself in. In order to break the habit, he tried a couple of tactics that you could use too.

First, he would bounce his eyes away. If he saw a jogger while he was driving, he would look to the other side of the road. Turns out, lusting with your peripheral vision is pretty much impossible.

Second, whenever he was tempted to look at the jogger, he would instantly tell himself off for breaking a covenant – an agreement he’d made between himself and God.

The author used this concept of the covenant to keep himself on the path to purity. Whenever he felt the urge to look in the wrong direction, he’d remind himself of the promise he’d made.

You can use these strategies for your own triggers, in any situation. With time and practice, it will become easier. And eventually, the temptation might even fade altogether.

Give up porn, and rediscover intimacy with your wife

Let’s look at one of the most problematic temptations men face today – pornography.

Porn is more prevalent than ever before. Thanks to technology, we have unprecedented access to hardcore images and videos.

At the same time, the very definition of “hardcore” has evolved into something disturbing that often involves sadomasochism and misogyny.

In short, porn is readily available, and it’s getting more extreme.

On top of that, studies show that habitual use of porn can change our brains. It alters our neural pathways, so it becomes easier to get turned on by a video than by a real-life partner.

As a result, there’s now an epidemic of erectile dysfunction among young men.

So while some men try to convince themselves that porn is harmless, clearly, that’s not the case.

If you repeatedly view pornographic imagery, your sexual tastes will change. You may even struggle to be intimate with your wife.

Pretty alarming, right? But the solution is simple.

You need to break the habit. Treat it like an addiction – which it may well be – and go cold turkey. Give up porn once and for all.

You won’t regret your decision; the benefits aren’t just spiritual. There’s also a sexual payoff for breaking these bad habits. A natural consequence of quitting porn is that you’ll start to feel more desire for your wife.

That’s what happened to one of the authors when he stopped looking at other women, or fantasizing about them. All of a sudden, he found that he couldn’t take his eyes off his wife. After years of marriage, she suddenly became more attractive to him, and their sex life was transformed.

That’s how it should be. It’s fine for men to have a sex drive and a sex life, but these must be expressed within God’s boundaries.

Once you’re free from distractions, you can dedicate your attention to your wife. And if you’ve been married for a while, this is a great opportunity to restore intimacy.

One of the best ways to do this is to slow things down using a process called skin to skin. This exercise is designed to remove any pressure and deepen intimacy.

Here’s how it works. Together with your wife, pick an old TV show to watch – ideally something funny, like a sitcom.

Then, get completely undressed. Make yourselves comfortable in the bedroom, lying down side by side as you watch the show together … but don’t touch. This will help you relax, and create a sense of real intimacy and connection.

Once the show is over, spend some time connecting with your wife. With her consent, touch her and kiss her, but slowly, and without trying to build sexual tension. All you’re looking for is intimacy. Pay attention to how she responds, and really focus on her. Any sexual experiences that follow will be much more intimate.

So, to sum up – cut out the porn, focus all your attention on your wife, and then take your time. By slowing sex down, you’ll speed up the process of rewiring your brain.

And in doing so you’ll experience true freedom – freedom from the habits you’ve been battling for so long.

Conclusion

As a Christian man, you might think sexual impurity is something outside your realm of influence. But even though society and your own brain can work against you, you still have control.

It all boils down to making decisions that are in line with God’s wishes, such as quitting porn.

Choose to break your habits, and commit to following through. Consistency is key. Over time, you can change your neural pathways so that making the right choice becomes easier and more natural.

You can achieve your goal of sexual purity, while nurturing intimacy with your wife. That’s what God wants. Let’s live our lives according to His standards, rather than society’s.

About the Author

Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker with Mike Yorkey

Genres

Sex, Relationships, Religion, Spirituality

Review 1

“Every Man’s Battle” is a powerful and transformative book that addresses the issue of Sexual Temptation and provides practical strategies for men to overcome it. Written by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey, this book offers guidance, support, and encouragement for men who are seeking to live a life of sexual integrity.

The authors begin by acknowledging the prevalence of sexual temptation in today’s society and the challenges men face in resisting it. They provide a candid and honest exploration of the struggles men encounter and the negative impact that sexual immorality can have on their lives, relationships, and spiritual well-being.

One of the strengths of this book is its emphasis on the importance of personal responsibility and accountability. The authors encourage men to take ownership of their thoughts, actions, and choices, and to recognize the destructive nature of sexual sin. They provide practical tools and strategies for developing self-discipline, setting boundaries, and creating a support system to help men stay on the path of purity.

Throughout the book, the authors draw from their own personal experiences and share real-life stories of men who have successfully overcome sexual temptation. These stories serve as inspiration and provide hope for readers who may be struggling in their own battles.

“Every Man’s Battle” also addresses the role of faith and spirituality in the journey towards sexual integrity. The authors emphasize the need for men to cultivate a strong relationship with God and to rely on His strength and grace in the face of temptation. They provide practical advice on seeking forgiveness, renewing the mind, and finding healing from past mistakes.

Furthermore, the book addresses the impact of pornography and the dangers of objectifying women. The authors provide insights into the harmful effects of pornography on individuals and relationships, and offer practical steps for breaking free from its grip.

In conclusion, “Every Man’s Battle” is a valuable resource for men who are seeking to overcome sexual temptation and live a life of purity. Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey provide practical strategies, biblical principles, and relatable stories that resonate with readers. This book offers hope, encouragement, and a roadmap for men who desire to win the war on sexual temptation one victory at a time.

Review 2

Summary:
“Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time” is a Christian-oriented, self-help book co-written by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey. It invites men to confront and overcome issues of sexual temptation through self-control, faith, and spiritual growth. It presents practical strategies layered with biblical teachings to help men maintain sexual purity and uphold ambits of their relationships that can be threatened by lust and sexual desires.

Review:
“Every Man’s Battle” is unique in its focus, offering a candid and profoundly personal approach to tackling the often-taboo subject of male sexual temptation from a Christian perspective. Arterburn, Stoeker, and Yorkey present strategies for dealing with sexual temptation, creating an approachable guide for men grappling with these issues.

The book offers a careful blend of anecdotes, personal testimonials, and scriptural references that humanizes the experiences of men struggling with sexual temptation, making the guidance provided feel more relatable and applicable.

A stand-out feature of the book is how it directly addresses the impact of lust and sexual temptation on relationships. The authors stressed the importance of accountability while considering the feelings and experiences of partners, offering a comprehensive view of the struggle against sexual temptation. They also provide concrete steps towards healing, reconciling, and restoring relationships affected by these struggles.

However, while the book offers valuable insights and strategies, it is significantly tied to Christian belief and biblical doctrines. This strong religious outlook might not resonate with everyone, especially readers from different faiths or secular perspectives. Some readers might also feel that the book tends to depict certain behaviors as universally applicable, negating individual differences and experiences.

In conclusion, “Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time” provides an honest perspective on men’s struggles with sexual temptation and offers concrete, faith-based strategies for overcoming these challenges. It is a worthy read for those seeking guidance in dealing with sexual temptations within the context of Christian faith. However, the religious teachings and principles undergirding its content might not appeal to readers outside of this faith context.

Review 3

Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time is a book that aims to help Christian men overcome their struggles with sexual sin. The authors, Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey, share their personal stories of addiction and recovery, as well as biblical principles and practical strategies for living in purity. The book is divided into three parts: The Battle, The Victory, and The Maintenance. In the first part, the authors expose the reality and consequences of sexual sin, and challenge men to admit their problem and seek help. In the second part, they offer a plan for victory over temptation, based on guarding the eyes, mind, and heart, and relying on God’s grace and power. In the third part, they provide guidance for maintaining sexual integrity in marriage, friendship, and ministry.

The book is written in a clear and direct style, with many examples and anecdotes from the authors and other men who have followed their program. The book is honest and realistic about the difficulties of overcoming sexual sin, but also hopeful and encouraging about the possibility of change. The book is based on a biblical worldview, and uses Scripture to support its arguments and advice. The book is intended for Christian men who are serious about living in obedience to God’s will for their sexuality, and who are willing to take responsibility for their actions and choices.

Review 4

“Every Man’s Battle” by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey is a practical and candid guide addressing the issue of sexual temptation from a Christian perspective. The book offers guidance, insights, and strategies for men striving to overcome the challenges of sexual temptation and live a life in alignment with their faith.

The authors present a straightforward and honest approach to tackling the issue, acknowledging the struggles that many men face in this area of their lives. They emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing sexual temptation as a battle that requires vigilance, discipline, and spiritual strength.

Throughout the book, the authors provide practical advice on how to establish boundaries, avoid triggers, and develop accountability in order to resist sexual temptation. They draw from personal experiences and testimonies, making the content relatable and encouraging for readers facing similar challenges.

“Every Man’s Battle” also emphasizes the role of faith and spirituality in overcoming sexual temptation. The authors stress the importance of a strong relationship with God and the power of prayer as essential tools in the battle against temptation.

One of the book’s strengths is its sensitivity to the emotional and relational aspects of sexual temptation. It addresses not only the individual’s struggles but also the impact on marriages and relationships. The authors offer guidance on how to restore trust and build healthier relationships.

While the book is primarily targeted at a Christian audience, its core principles of self-discipline, accountability, and faith-based resilience can be applicable to individuals from various faith backgrounds who seek to address issues of sexual temptation in their lives.

In summary, “Every Man’s Battle” provides a compassionate and practical approach to a sensitive topic. Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey offer valuable insights and strategies for men who are committed to winning the battle against sexual temptation. It’s a resource that combines faith-based guidance with real-world advice, making it relevant and helpful for those seeking to live a life of integrity and purity.

Review 5

“Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time” by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey is a Christian self-help book that addresses the issue of sexual temptation. The authors approach the topic from a biblical perspective, emphasizing the importance of purity and integrity.

The book is divided into several sections, each dealing with different aspects of sexual temptation. The authors share personal stories and experiences, making the content relatable and engaging. They provide practical strategies and tools to help men resist temptation and maintain sexual purity. These strategies include setting boundaries, accountability, and renewing one’s mind through scripture.

The authors’ writing style is straightforward and easy to understand. They don’t shy away from discussing sensitive topics, which makes the book a valuable resource for those struggling with sexual temptation. However, some readers might find the authors’ views conservative or traditional.

Overall, “Every Man’s Battle” is a thought-provoking book that challenges men to take responsibility for their actions and strive for sexual purity. It provides a Christian perspective on a topic that is often overlooked or ignored in society. While it may not appeal to everyone, it can be a helpful resource for those who share the authors’ beliefs and values.

Review 6

Every Man’s Battle is a powerful and insightful book that addresses the sensitive and often taboo topic of sexual temptation. Written by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey, this book offers practical guidance and biblical principles to help men overcome the challenges they face in the realm of sexual purity.

The authors begin by acknowledging the pervasive nature of sexual temptation in today’s society and the detrimental effects it can have on individuals, relationships, and spiritual well-being. They emphasize the importance of recognizing the battle that men face and provide a roadmap for victory, one step at a time.

One of the strengths of this book is its candid and honest approach. The authors do not shy away from discussing the realities of sexual temptation, including the struggles, failures, and consequences that many men experience. By sharing personal stories and testimonies, they create a relatable and empathetic atmosphere, making it easier for readers to connect with the material.

The book is divided into three main sections, each focusing on a different aspect of the battle against sexual temptation. The first section explores the nature of the battle, helping readers understand the root causes and triggers of their struggles. It delves into the psychological, emotional, and spiritual aspects of sexual temptation, providing valuable insights into the underlying issues.

The second section offers practical strategies and tools for overcoming sexual temptation. The authors provide actionable advice on setting boundaries, developing accountability, and renewing the mind. They also address the role of faith and spirituality in the battle, emphasizing the importance of relying on God’s strength and grace.

In the final section, the authors discuss the importance of long-term commitment and ongoing growth. They encourage readers to view victory over sexual temptation as a lifelong journey rather than a one-time event. They provide guidance on maintaining healthy habits, building strong relationships, and finding support within a community of like-minded individuals.

Every Man’s Battle is a well-researched book that draws on psychological insights, biblical teachings, and real-life experiences. The authors present their ideas in a clear and accessible manner, making it easy for readers to grasp the concepts and apply them to their own lives.

While the book primarily targets men, its principles and advice can be beneficial for anyone struggling with sexual temptation. It offers hope, encouragement, and practical solutions for those seeking to break free from the chains of addiction and pursue a life of purity.

In conclusion, Every Man’s Battle is a valuable resource for men who are serious about winning the war on sexual temptation. It provides a comprehensive and compassionate approach to addressing this sensitive issue, offering practical strategies, biblical wisdom, and personal stories to guide readers towards victory. Whether you are struggling with sexual temptation or seeking to support someone who is, this book is a must-read.

Review 7

Here is my review of the book Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey:

This book is a powerful and practical guide for men who struggle with sexual temptation and want to live a life of purity and integrity. The authors, who have experienced the devastating effects of sexual sin and the healing power of God’s grace, share their personal stories and biblical insights to help men overcome their lustful thoughts and behaviors. They also provide a detailed plan for achieving sexual victory, which includes:

• Understanding the nature and origin of sexual temptation
• Recognizing the triggers and patterns that lead to sexual compromise
• Developing a battle plan to resist and flee from temptation
• Establishing accountability and support with other men
• Seeking forgiveness and restoration from God and others
• Nurturing a healthy and satisfying sexual relationship with one’s spouse

The book is written in a candid and compassionate style, with plenty of examples and anecdotes that illustrate the main points. It is also based on solid research and evidence, as well as on the authors’ own experience and expertise. It is not only informative, but also inspiring and challenging. I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to take their sexual purity seriously and experience lasting freedom.

Review 8

Here is my review of the book Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey:

This book is a Christian-based guide for men who struggle with sexual temptation and want to achieve sexual purity and integrity. The authors, who are counselors and speakers, share their own stories of overcoming sexual addiction and offer biblical principles and practical strategies to help men overcome lust, pornography, masturbation, adultery, and other forms of sexual sin.

The book argues that sexual temptation is a common and powerful enemy that every man faces, but that God has provided a way of escape and victory for those who are willing to fight the battle. The book shows how sexual sin can damage a man’s relationship with God, his wife, his family, his church, and his society. The book also shows how sexual purity can bring a man closer to God, his wife, his family, his church, and his society.

The book provides a framework for winning the war on sexual temptation using an actionable model built around three key elements: the eyes, the mind, and the heart. The eyes element helps men control what they look at and avoid visual triggers that can lead to lust. The mind element helps men renew their minds with God’s truth and resist the lies of the enemy. The heart element helps men cultivate a love for God and a desire for holiness that can overcome any temptation.

The book is written in a clear, engaging, and compassionate style, with a balance of theory and practice. The authors use humor, anecdotes, and personal reflections to convey their message. They also invite readers to reflect on their own experiences and aspirations, and to join a global community of men who are committed to sexual purity.

The book is suitable for anyone who is interested in learning more about the potential of sexual purity for their spiritual growth and personal happiness. It can also help leaders, pastors, counselors, mentors, coaches, educators, activists, and anyone else who wants to support men in their journey of sexual purity.

The book is not a one-size-fits-all solution or a blueprint for success. It is rather an invitation to experiment, learn, and co-create with others who share a similar vision. It also acknowledges the challenges and difficulties that may arise in the process of changing one’s sexual behavior, and offers guidance on how to navigate them.

The book is a valuable resource for anyone who wants to learn more about the emerging trends and practices of sexual purity. It offers a hopeful, realistic, and empowering perspective on how every man can win the war on sexual temptation one victory at a time.

You can find more information about the book on its official website or on Amazon. You can also read an article by the authors on Focus on the Family.

Review 9

Here is a brief review of the book Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey.

This book is a Christian and biblical guide for men who struggle with sexual temptation and want to live in purity and integrity. The authors, Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey, are experienced counselors, speakers, and writers who share their personal stories, testimonies, and insights on how to overcome sexual sin and honor God with their bodies, minds, and hearts.

The book is based on the premise that every man faces a daily battle with sexual temptation, whether it is through pornography, masturbation, lustful thoughts, or adultery. The book argues that this battle is not only harmful for the men themselves, but also for their wives, families, friends, and society. The book challenges the men to take responsibility for their actions, confess their sins, seek accountability, and rely on God’s grace and power to change their lives.

The book also offers a practical and realistic plan for victory, by teaching the men how to:

• Identify the triggers and patterns of their sexual temptation
• Develop a strategy to avoid or escape from tempting situations
• Renew their minds with God’s truth and promises
• Guard their eyes and hearts from impure images and thoughts
• Build intimacy and trust with their wives or future spouses
• Celebrate their progress and achievements

The book is written in an honest and compassionate style, with clear examples, questions, exercises, and prayers. The book is intended for any man who wants to win the war on sexual temptation and live a life of purity and purpose. The book also includes a workbook section that helps the men apply the principles and practices of the book to their own situations.

The book is a revised and updated 20th anniversary edition that was released in August 2020 by WaterBrook. The book has received positive feedback from thousands of readers and endorsers, who praise the book’s relevance, helpfulness, courage, and impact.

Review 10

Here is my review of the book Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey.

This book is a practical and biblical guide for men who struggle with sexual temptation and want to live a pure and godly life. The authors share their own stories of overcoming sexual addiction and offer a detailed strategy that has helped millions of men win the war against temptation. The book covers topics such as the nature and origin of sexual sin, the consequences of sexual compromise, the benefits of sexual purity, the steps to recovery and restoration, and the ways to prevent relapse and maintain victory.

The book is written in a clear and honest style, with personal anecdotes, biblical insights, and practical tips. The book also includes a workbook section that helps readers apply the principles and practices to their own lives. The book is suitable for men of all ages and stages of life, whether they are single or married, young or old, new or mature believers. The book is also helpful for women who want to understand and support their husbands or sons in their battle for sexual purity.

The book is a valuable resource for anyone who wants to overcome sexual temptation and experience God’s best for their lives. The book challenges readers to face their sexual sin honestly, repent sincerely, seek God’s grace fervently, and pursue God’s holiness passionately. The book also encourages readers to find accountability partners, join support groups, and seek professional counseling if needed. The book shows that sexual purity is not impossible, but possible with God’s help and power.

The book is not perfect, however. Some readers may find the book too graphic or explicit in some parts, especially when describing the authors’ past experiences or giving examples of common temptations. Some readers may also disagree with some of the authors’ interpretations or applications of certain biblical passages or doctrines. Some readers may also feel that the book does not address some of the root causes or deeper issues of sexual addiction, such as emotional wounds, psychological disorders, or spiritual warfare. These limitations do not negate the overall value and usefulness of the book, but they do suggest that readers should exercise discernment and wisdom when reading the book.

Overall, I would recommend this book to anyone who wants to learn more about sexual purity and how to achieve it in their lives. The book is not a magic formula or a quick fix, but a realistic and reliable guide that can help men overcome sexual temptation and honor God with their bodies. The book is not only informative, but also inspiring and empowering. It shows that every man’s battle can be won with God’s help and every man’s victory can be celebrated with God’s joy.

Review 11

Here’s a brief review of the book “Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time” by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey:

“Every Man’s Battle” is a Christian self-help book that addresses the issue of sexual temptation and how men can overcome it. The authors, Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey, argue that sexual temptation is a common struggle for men and that it can have serious consequences on their relationships, careers, and overall well-being.

The book is divided into three parts. The first part explores the nature of sexual temptation and how it can affect men. The authors argue that sexual temptation is not just a personal problem, but also a spiritual one, and that it can be fueled by various factors such as media, culture, and personal circumstances. They also emphasize the importance of understanding the differences between healthy and unhealthy sexuality.

The second part of the book provides practical strategies for overcoming sexual temptation. The authors suggest a three-step approach that includes recognizing and avoiding triggers, developing healthy coping mechanisms, and seeking help from God and other people. They also emphasize the importance of accountability and transparency in overcoming sexual temptation.

The third part of the book focuses on sustaining victory over sexual temptation. The authors argue that overcoming sexual temptation is not a one-time event, but a lifelong process that requires ongoing effort and commitment. They suggest various strategies for maintaining sexual purity, such as developing a healthy relationship with God, building strong relationships with others, and cultivating healthy habits and practices.

Throughout the book, the authors use real-life examples and stories to illustrate their points, making the book relatable and accessible to readers. They also provide practical tools and resources, such as self-assessment quizzes, discussion questions, and action plans, to help readers apply the principles they have learned.

One of the strengths of the book is its emphasis on the importance of spirituality and faith in overcoming sexual temptation. The authors recognize that sexual temptation is not just a personal issue, but also a spiritual one, and that it requires a spiritual solution. They encourage readers to seek help from God and to cultivate a deep relationship with Him as a way to overcome sexual temptation.

Another strength of the book is its practicality. The authors provide concrete strategies and tools that readers can use to overcome sexual temptation. They also emphasize the importance of accountability and transparency, which can be especially helpful for men who struggle with sexual temptation.

However, some readers may find the book’s approach to sexuality and gender roles to be somewhat traditional or conservative. The book emphasizes the importance of masculinity and femininity, and suggests that men should be strong leaders and providers, while women should be nurturing and supportive. Some readers may find this approach to be limiting or outdated.

In conclusion, “Every Man’s Battle” is a helpful book for men who struggle with sexual temptation. The book provides a comprehensive approach to overcoming sexual temptation, emphasizing the importance of spirituality, self-awareness, and healthy relationships. While some readers may find the book’s approach to gender roles to be traditional or conservative, the book’s practical strategies and tools can be helpful for anyone who wants to overcome sexual temptation and live a healthy and fulfilling life.

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Every Man’s Battle is a Christian self-help book written by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey. The book is based on the premise that men are constantly bombarded with sexual temptations, and that they need to be prepared to fight against these temptations in order to maintain their purity.

The book is divided into three parts. The first part, “The Battlefield,” discusses the nature of sexual temptation and the challenges that men face in overcoming it. The second part, “The Weapons,” provides practical advice on how men can fight against temptation. The third part, “The Victory,” discusses the rewards of overcoming temptation and the importance of living a life of purity.

Every Man’s Battle has been praised by many for its practical advice and its emphasis on the importance of accountability. However, the book has also been criticized by some for its narrow focus on heterosexual relationships and its lack of inclusivity.

Overall, Every Man’s Battle is a valuable resource for men who are struggling with sexual temptation. The book provides practical advice and encouragement, and it can help men to develop the tools they need to overcome temptation and live a life of purity.

Strengths:

• Practical advice
• Emphasis on accountability
• Encouraging

Weaknesses:

• Narrow focus on heterosexual relationships
• Lack of inclusivity

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Certainly! Here’s my brief review of the book “Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time” by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey:

Overview:

“Every Man’s Battle” is a comprehensive guidebook for men who struggle with sexual temptation and want to win the war against it. The book is written by three men who have personally experienced the battle and offer practical insights and strategies for overcoming sexual temptation. The authors emphasize that sexual temptation is a common struggle for men of all ages, backgrounds, and religious beliefs, and that it is possible to overcome it with the right mindset, tools, and support.

Strengths:

• Practical and relatable: The authors use real-life examples and anecdotes to make the book feel relatable and accessible. The strategies and exercises provided are practical and easy to implement.
• Comprehensive approach: The book covers various aspects of sexual temptation, including the biology of desire, the role of the mind, and the importance of community and accountability. It also addresses the impact of technology and social media on sexual temptation.
• Biblical foundation: The book is based on biblical principles and offers a Christian perspective on sexuality and temptation. The authors provide a clear and compelling case for why sexual purity is possible and worth pursuing.
• Empowering: The book empowers men to take responsibility for their own sexual purity and offers practical tools for building healthy relationships with others.

Weaknesses:

• Limited scope: The book primarily focuses on heterosexual men and may not be as relevant or applicable to men who identify as LGBTQ+ or those in same-sex relationships.
• Gendered assumptions: The book assumes that men are the primary actors in the battle against sexual temptation and may not acknowledge the role of women in this struggle.
• Focus on individualism: The book emphasizes individual responsibility and may not adequately address the systemic and societal factors that contribute to sexual temptation.

Key Takeaways:

• Sexual temptation is a common struggle for men of all backgrounds and beliefs.
• Overcoming sexual temptation requires a comprehensive approach that includes self-awareness, accountability, and community support.
• Building healthy relationships with others is key to sexual purity and fulfillment.
• The book offers practical strategies and exercises for overcoming sexual temptation and building healthy relationships.

Target Audience:

“Every Man’s Battle” is primarily targeted towards heterosexual men who struggle with sexual temptation. It may be particularly helpful for men who are looking for a Christian perspective on sexuality and temptation, or for men who want a practical guidebook for overcoming sexual temptation.

In conclusion, “Every Man’s Battle” is a comprehensive and practical guidebook for men who struggle with sexual temptation. It offers a biblical perspective on sexuality and temptation, and provides practical strategies and exercises for overcoming temptation and building healthy relationships. While it may have some limitations in terms of its gendered assumptions and focus on individualism, it is an empowering and relatable resource for men who are seeking to win the war against sexual temptation.

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Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time is a powerful and thought-provoking book that tackles the sensitive issue of sexual temptation, specifically targeting men. Written by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey, this book offers practical guidance, insightful perspectives, and a clear roadmap for men seeking to overcome the struggles associated with sexual temptation.

From the very beginning, the authors establish a compassionate and non-judgmental tone, acknowledging that sexual temptation is a common struggle faced by many men. They emphasize the importance of addressing this issue head-on, providing hope and encouragement to readers who may feel trapped or overwhelmed by their desires.

One of the book’s strengths lies in its honesty and transparency. The authors openly share their own personal battles with sexual temptation, making the content relatable and creating a sense of camaraderie with the reader. By illustrating their own victories and failures, they effectively convey that the journey toward freedom is not an easy one, but it is possible with the right mindset, tools, and support.

The book is structured in a logical and organized manner, covering various aspects of sexual temptation and providing practical strategies for overcoming it. Each chapter addresses a specific topic, such as understanding the nature of sexual temptation, safeguarding the mind, and building healthy relationships. The authors draw upon their extensive experience and biblical principles to offer insightful perspectives and actionable advice.

One notable aspect of Every Man’s Battle is its emphasis on accountability. The authors stress the importance of having trusted individuals who can provide support, encouragement, and accountability during the recovery process. They provide practical steps for building such relationships and highlight the significance of honest and open communication.

Throughout the book, the authors consistently emphasize the role of faith and spirituality in overcoming sexual temptation. While the content is rooted in Christian principles, the authors approach the topic with sensitivity, ensuring that readers from diverse backgrounds can benefit from the book’s wisdom. They provide biblical references and insightful interpretations, which can help readers develop a deeper understanding of the spiritual aspects of their struggle.

Additionally, the authors address the issue of pornography addiction extensively. They shed light on the damaging effects of pornography on individuals and relationships, offering practical strategies for breaking free from its grip. They also provide resources and recommendations for seeking professional help when needed.

However, it is important to note that Every Man’s Battle primarily focuses on the male perspective of sexual temptation. While the authors briefly acknowledge that women can also struggle with this issue, the book’s content is primarily tailored to men. Female readers may find it helpful to seek additional resources that specifically address their unique challenges.

In conclusion, Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time is a valuable resource for men seeking to overcome the struggles of sexual temptation. The authors provide a compassionate and practical approach, combining personal experiences with biblical wisdom and psychological insights. By addressing the issue head-on and offering actionable strategies, this book empowers men to reclaim their lives and build healthier relationships.

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Introduction:

“Every Man’s Battle” is a thought-provoking and insightful book that delves into the complex and often taboo topic of sexual temptation. Written by three experienced authors, Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey, the book offers a comprehensive guide for men to overcome their sexual struggles and live a more fulfilling life. In this review, we will examine the book’s strengths, weaknesses, and key takeaways, providing a detailed analysis of its contents.

Strengths:

• Holistic approach: The authors take a holistic approach to addressing sexual temptation, recognizing that it is a multifaceted issue that affects every aspect of a man’s life. They provide practical strategies for overcoming temptation in all its forms, including thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
• Personal anecdotes: The book includes personal anecdotes and real-life examples from the authors and other men who have struggled with sexual temptation. These stories provide hope and encouragement, demonstrating that it is possible to overcome even the most entrenched sexual struggles.
• Biblical perspectives: The authors draw heavily from biblical teachings and use them to provide a moral and ethical framework for understanding and addressing sexual temptation. This emphasis on biblical principles makes the book accessible and relevant to men of all faiths.
• Practical strategies: The book offers practical strategies for overcoming sexual temptation, including accountability partners, personal inventory, and the importance of a personal relationship with God. These strategies are supported by scientific research and are easy to implement.

Weaknesses:

• Lack of sensitivity: Some readers may find the book’s approach to sexual temptation to be too simplistic or even judgmental, particularly in its handling of issues related to homosexuality. The authors’ views on this topic are not universally accepted and may be offensive to some readers.
• Limited scope: While the book addresses the broader issues of sexual temptation, it does not delve deeply into other complex issues affecting men, such as gender roles, masculinity, and relationships.
• Lack of diversity: The book is written primarily from the perspective of white, middle-class, Christian men, which may limit its appeal and relevance to other demographics.

Key Takeaways:

• Sexual temptation is a common struggle for men, but it can be overcome with the right mindset, strategies, and support.
• The holistic approach to addressing sexual temptation, which includes physical, emotional, and spiritual factors, is the most effective way to overcome this struggle.
• Personal accountability and a strong support system are crucial for overcoming sexual temptation.
• Biblical principles provide a moral and ethical framework for understanding and addressing sexual temptation.
• Practical strategies, such as accountability partners and personal inventory, can help men overcome sexual temptation.
• Sexual temptation is not a personal failing, but rather a common struggle that affects men of all backgrounds and beliefs.
• A personal relationship with God is essential for overcoming sexual temptation and living a fulfilling life.

Conclusion:

“Every Man’s Battle” is a valuable resource for men struggling with sexual temptation. While it has some limitations, the book provides practical strategies, personal anecdotes, and biblical perspectives that can help men overcome this common struggle. By implementing the strategies outlined in the book, men can overcome sexual temptation and live a more fulfilling life. However, it is important to approach the book with an open mind and a critical eye, recognizing its limitations and the need for ongoing support and guidance.

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Here is a review of the book “Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time” by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey:

This book provides a candid and thoughtful discussion of the struggles that many men face with sexual temptation. The core message is one of hope – that through commitment to spiritual discipline and accountability, men can experience consistent victory in this challenging arena.

The book is divided into 12 chapters, each exploring a different aspect of the battle and providing concrete advice. It begins by establishing that every man must wage this war, as sexuality has been corrupted by sin. However, men are not left in defeat – the authors present a strategy for victory through relationship with Jesus Christ.

Some key themes addressed include understanding how sexuality has been wired by God as a gift within marriage, yet warped by lust outside of it. Tools like immersing in accountability, media choices, thought management, and honesty about struggles are presented. Practical day-to-day disciplines of prayer, Bible study, and changing one’s environment are emphasized.

An especially helpful concept was identifying “vulnerabilities” – situations, places, or mindsets that leave one susceptible to temptation. The authors stress being keenly aware of personal vulnerabilities and always traveling with “backup.” Stories throughout bring these principles to life, helping readers see they are not alone in the struggle.

Overall, this book treats its topic with theological depth, candor and grace. While not ignoring sin’s reality and consequences, the tone remains one of hope. The message is that through Christ, men have what it takes to experience consistent victory as God’s gift. Practical applications and call to community make the content readily applicable. This remains an important read for any man seeking to honor God with his sexuality.

Review 17

Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time is a groundbreaking book written by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey. Published in 2000, this book addresses the sensitive topic of sexual temptation and offers practical guidance and strategies for men who are seeking to overcome it.

The book begins by acknowledging the prevalence of sexual temptation in today’s society and the challenges it poses to men of all ages and backgrounds. It emphasizes that sexual struggles are not limited to a particular group but are a universal issue that requires attention and proactive measures.

Throughout the book, the authors provide a comprehensive framework for understanding the nature of sexual temptation and its potential consequences. They explore the underlying causes and triggers of sexual struggles, delving into topics such as pornography, lust, infidelity, and the impact of media and culture on sexual behavior.

What sets Every Man’s Battle apart is its emphasis on the spiritual aspects of overcoming sexual temptation. The authors approach the issue from a Christian perspective, incorporating biblical principles and teachings to guide readers towards lasting victory. They emphasize the importance of developing a strong relationship with God, relying on His grace, and seeking accountability within a supportive community.

One of the book’s strengths lies in its practicality. The authors provide readers with practical strategies and practical steps to take in order to overcome sexual temptation. They offer specific tools and techniques to help readers break free from destructive patterns and develop healthy habits. These include setting boundaries, renewing the mind, accountability partnerships, and engaging in positive activities.

Furthermore, Every Man’s Battle tackles the often overlooked issue of emotional and spiritual healing. The authors acknowledge that sexual struggles can leave deep emotional wounds and provide guidance on how to address and heal these wounds. They emphasize the importance of forgiveness, self-acceptance, and seeking professional help when needed.

While Every Man’s Battle primarily focuses on men’s struggles with sexual temptation, the book also acknowledges that women can face similar challenges. It includes sections dedicated to helping women understand and support the men in their lives who are battling sexual temptation. This inclusiveness adds value to the book by making it relevant to a wider audience.

Overall, Every Man’s Battle is a powerful and practical resource for men seeking to overcome sexual temptation. It offers a compassionate and non-judgmental approach, combined with biblical wisdom and practical advice. The book’s strengths lie in its comprehensive coverage of the topic, its spiritual emphasis, and its provision of practical tools for lasting change.

However, it is important to note that Every Man’s Battle is written from a specific religious perspective, and its effectiveness may vary depending on the reader’s personal beliefs and values. Additionally, some readers may find certain sections of the book to be explicit or triggering, given the sensitive nature of the topic.

In conclusion, Every Man’s Battle is a valuable resource for men struggling with sexual temptation. It provides a roadmap for navigating this challenging terrain, offering hope, encouragement, and practical guidance for achieving victory one step at a time.

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