What Are Assumptions?
It is often said, change your assumptions and your reality will change according to those new assumptions. That is true, but how on earth do you go about doing this?
An assumption is something that sits there, inside of our subconscious and works on auto-pilot. Often we don’t even know what our assumptions are. They are beliefs we may have held for years without a clue that each one is like a little Programme Running in the background. They never stop for a rest, they just keep playing silently.
If for instance, you notice a particular behaviour from a close friend and you are not surprised because you have become accustomed to it and see it as part of their character, you have created an assumption that they are this way, therefore, you will always see evidence to back this assumption up. Reality will provide you with continuous proof that you are indeed right!
Becoming Aware of Our Own Assumptions About People
You might want to start a relationship with someone. You might want to manifest them on a romantic level, and yet, even though you are pretty damn good at manifestation, they seem to be immune to your power.
If this is the case, then take a deeper look inside yourself. What do you think about them as a person? How would you describe them in a few sentences? This is not THEM. This is the them you have created. Everyone has an essence, and we then layer that core THEM with our own assumptions and so, solidify that version in our reality. But that person may be completely different with someone else. They may show only some or none of the character traits your particular version has. That’s because the beholder of a person is the creator of that person.
Maybe you Assume that people think you are flighty or bad with money for example. You assume this only because you feel this, therefore, you see people reflecting that back to you in the comments they make and the conversations you have.
You might assume that something always happens in a particular way and so it does. For example, I have had to have so much dental work done over the last ten years and each time I would go for a new fitting and each time I would have to have the tooth or teeth sent back to the lab for adjustment. It happened each and every bloody time and it was annoying! As I drove to the dentist for my last appointment I thought to myself ‘This is going to be right first time’ and in a flash of knowing, I knew it would not be as I have a little programme running inside of me that said ‘It’s always right on the second appointment’ – So in that moment I knew there was no point in affirming anything else as that programme was stronger than the few affirmations I might make between home and the surgery. It was a done deal. The tooth was not right. of course it wasn’t!
We can work at changing our beliefs about ourselves and others, but I find it more productive in my own life to simply heal the assumption I have, as if it were a splinter that needs removing! A few years ago one of my coaching clients came up with the term ‘heal’ and I used it right after our session. On one thing it actually worked immediately. I could almost feel the shift. On other things as I go, some dissolve in the moment and others take a little longer. Then I am starting with a clean slate. I prefer not to try to assume something else is true, as that often comes with resistance and an assumption is a very flowing, natural thing isn’t it? It’s not so easy to simply assume something different. Removing the assumption is way easier, less time consuming and comes with much less resistance.
