The Surrender is a memoir by Toni Bentley published in 2012. It chronicles her sexcapades with an un-named man. Bentley's memoir is provocative and erotic, and it is unusual enough to be highly memorable.  Ultimately it is more style than substance, not just in what it has to say about anal sex, but also in its depiction of relationships.  Bentley herself, despite revealing such intimate details about her life, seems an alien personality.  We don't learn anything about her friendships or family from the book, or anything about her work, and we learn very little about her, except for her sex life.  Even more troubling, she doesn't leave her readers wanting to know more about her.  It is as if she has anticipated that, having told her readers so much about her anal predilections, they won't want to know learn more about the rest of her life, and she is shutting herself off.