Difficulty with Vulnerable Feelings What do you do when you are disappointed with your partner? Specifically, what we do when we are disappointed in our partners reveals our difficulties wit… Read More

Being a doormat means we in a relationship we are the one who gets stepped on. We are the one who is just there, without needs. The post Putting Up With Too Much? Stop Being A Doormat appear… Read More

Being a doormat means we in a relationship we are the one who gets stepped on. We are the one who is just there, without needs. The post Stop Being A Doormat appeared first on WeConcile | Bl… Read More

How does a solid supportive relationship help our children? What happens to our children when our relationships are stressed. How do we get the support we need so we can be better parents? W… Read More

Self Support Helps Our Parenting How does a solid supportive relationship help our children? What happens to our children when our relationships are stressed. How do we get the support we ne… Read More

Relational intelligence (RQ) Is More Than Emotional Intelligence My History I grew up in a household with anger issues, boundary issues, and many conflicts.  We weren’t a family o… Read More

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WeConcile is a tool for living. You can immediately change your focus, and calm your swirling mind or your intense emotions. You can engage your thinking brain and gain new skills. You can l… Read More

Wounds, Triggers (and Attachment Needs) The following short 90-second video is one of my favorites of those I’ve done recently – because it clearly outlines why we get upset and… Read More

WeConcile is not only the best relationship app, it is a tool for living. You can immediately change your focus, calm your swirling mind or your intense emotions. You can engage your thinkin… Read More

We’ve all lost our shit. Yelled, screamed, slammed doors, or simply shut down, mute and immobile. Frozen in fear and uncertainty, or trapped in placating to keep the peace. The post Re… Read More

(Permission by client granted; names and details changed.) Jill is a single and successful 34-year old female of mixed heritage who had been traumatized by being in a relationship with Greg… Read More

(Permission by client granted; names and details changed.) Sally, a married 46-year-old mother of 5, came into therapy overwhelmed with the demands of her life. She was in extreme emotional… Read More

SHORT TERM MARRIAGE COUNSELING: FROM DRINKING AND CONROLLING TO INTIMACY AND CONNECTION (Permission by client granted; names and details changed.) Jane, an attractive 48-year old and her hus… Read More

Molly, 38 and single, entered therapy very depressed and hating herself. Her goals were to honor her own needs, be in a romantic relationship and feel more fulfilled at work. Although feelin… Read More

An Interview With Psychotherapist Jennifer Lehr, MFT – interviewed by Jaleh Weber  8/15/2010 Tell me a little bit about yourself. I am a marriage and family therapist. I specializ… Read More

I am feeling both apprehensive and excited.  Jean is about to enter an inner story and work in the realm of metaphor.  We had been working together for several years and Jean had m… Read More

I heard a story today about ‘the little black bag.’  One of my yoga teachers told the story of when she first realized that she loved to write.  She was in 2nd gra… Read More

The Psychology of Transformation; Mapping out the Path of Co-Creating a New Reality I have written this article for people who are in the process of transformation, and who are interested in… Read More

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Families. They can be a problematic maze which we don’t know how to navigate through. I’m part of a family that is stuck and fractured. The flatlands of black and white vision bl… Read More

’t start as little children wanting to be abusers. We often don’t even like how it feels to abuse. But somehow, somewhere, something happened. The post The Emotional Abuser appea… Read More

Masculinity is often identified with strength, courage, independence, leadership, power, and assertiveness. But built into that style of masculinity is fragility. The post When Masculinity… Read More

Are you in a jealous relationship? Jealousy is a feeling that often comes with specific actions.Learn what it is and how to repair it. The post The Jealous Relationship & What To Do appe… Read More

Getting upset is part of every relationship. It is important to learn how to get through these upset times, especially until we develop the skills that allow us to resolve our conflict quick… Read More

When I was a teenager, I threw a hammer at my sister, narrowly missing her head. Now, all these years later, I cannot remember what we were fighting about. What I do know is that when I was… Read More

The last thing we want in a relationship or marriage is to feel abused. We want to know we are valued and important. We want love. Learn the why's of abuse in a relationship and the fixes… Read More

One of the keys to a happy marriage to understand our relationship better is through the doorway of our feelings. Our feelings are quick to let us know when something seems wrong. We could b… Read More

I am having problems in a relationship. I recently moved in with my partner, and our relationship was going well. We got into a fight, and then all of a sudden, it felt like it was over. I… Read More

How do we make love, not war? All couples are in each other’s care…whether they know it or not. Unfortunately, couples often struggle with this basic principle of creating a hap… Read More

Sometimes we meet the right person at the wrong time. I met Joe 10 years before my first marriage. We spent about 2 years together. I didn’t have the tools I needed at that time. I nee… Read More

You are your partner are struggling. You don’t understand what is happening or why you keep getting stuck, having seemingly the same fight over and over. You love each other, but your… Read More

We often don’t realize the power we have to improve our lives. Learning more about our attachment style gives us tools to enable us to understand more about how our minds work. Underst… Read More

Arguing in a relationship, fighting in a relationship, or having conflict in a relationship are painful roadblocks to connection. Yet, as we learn to understand what drives our conflict, we… Read More

Self care is an essential element of psychological health and impacts relationships. We'll be looking at some ideas for self care using self awareness. The post Ideas for Self Care – U… Read More

Relationship problems and depression in relationships contribute to suicidality. Our need to be loved and cared for is so great, that when we feel that our relationship is falling apart, or… Read More

When a couple gets into a conflict, they generally get caught on the surface or problem level. Several things need to happen to resolve the conflict. You'll learn about the necessary skills… Read More

Infidelity is devastating to a relationship and makes a relationship emotionally unsafe for the person who has been cheated upon. Here is a roadmap to surviving infidelity. The post Survivin… Read More

You can use this step by step guide to help you build your relationship. The post Use This Time to Build Relationships (Not Break Them) appeared first on WeConcile | Blog Read More

You can learn how to save your marriage whether your partner is willing to work on your marriage or not. The post How to Save Your Marriage appeared first on WeConcile | Blog Read More

Learning how to trust ourselves is part of creating trust in a relationship. The post Finding Trust In a Relationship and Ourselves appeared first on WeConcile | Blog Read More

Sexuality brings into contact our various needs, different desires, and different fantasies. Sexuality may carry with it, not just an expression of love, but our emotional baggage as well. Y… Read More

I Am More Than My Wiring – I Have the Power to Be the Love I Wish to Receive “Will you cuddle me?” my husband asked. “No, I’m reading,” I say, a bit put o… Read More

Getting ready for marriage or a relationship Are you waiting for Mr. or Ms. Right? Are you in a relationship you want to improve? Perhaps you are getting ready for marriage or a relationship… Read More

Intimacy usually refers to the state of having a close, personal, or romantic relationship with someone. We expect to have intimacy in marriage. The post Intimacy in Marriage: Building Bett… Read More

Sex in a relationship can be an expression of love and connection and the giving and receiving of physical pleasure. When we think of marriage, we believe that a sexual relationship will be… Read More

How does a couple know if online marriage counseling or an online relationship app is right for them? Let’s look at some different relationship growth choices. Marriage counseling help… Read More

My name is Jennifer Lehr, LMFT and I am the founder of WeConcile. I regularly share my experience and story, my knowledge, my struggles, and my vulnerabilities in my writing. I also share my… Read More