As requested, I asked men to give me tips on how a girl can know that a guy is interested in her. Here is what they said:
It’s complicated. Love is not straightforward and so it’s not always easy to tell that a guy is interested in you. Guys don’t always know how to express their interest in a girl and the reasons vary: nervousness, fear of rejection, shyness, feeling that they are not good enough for the girl, etc. Fear of rejection keeps many men from pursuing a love interest. It’s easy to think that guys are supposed to be “the man” in the situation and ask the girl out, without fearing rejection. But men are humans too and just like girls they don’t want to face the consequences of being rejected. Also, a guy’s actions might contradict what you expect from a guy that’s into you. For example: while some guys will engage in conversation with you, other guys might avoid you or act weird around you. Similarly, while some men will waste no time in asking you out, other men will take some time. Love makes us act in strange ways. So don’t jump to conclusions! Be patient and time will tell…
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Verbal Communication. A guy who is interested in you will engage in conversation with you and ask follow-up questions, as to keep the conversation flowing and smooth. He will ask you for your opinions on things, about yourself, what your interests are and will listen to what you have to say.
Non-verbal communication. Body language is a non-verbal way for a guy to show interest in you. For example, he acts nervous and shy around you. Or, he acts differently around you than he does around his friends. Also, a guy who is interested in you will try and steal glances of you. He’ll touch you occasionally in a friendly, non-invasive way, which is a way of telling you he wants to be close to you. In fact, it may be hard for some guys to verbally express their feelings to you and so they might gently reach for your hand instead, while you happen to be engaged in a nice conversation.
He puts in a lot of time and energy to show you he cares about you. The guy makes an effort to spend time with you and cherishes the moments you share. If he doesn’t put in the time then he’s just not that into you. If he’s interested in you, he’ll concern himself with your needs, even placing yours before his and he’ll treat you with the respect and dignity you deserve. While many girls are attracted to bad or “bad” boys, myself included, a guy who likes you will be nice to you.
He makes an effort to get along with your friends. Good friends have each other’s backs and it’s important in any healthy relationship that your partner gets along with your friends. When a girl really likes a guy she normally wants her friends to like him too. This means that a guy who is interested in you will try and get the thumbs up from your friends. If your friends like him, they will support your relationship with him. If he is really nice to your friends he is probably really into you.
He tries to impress you. Not only will he show you off to everybody (even if this means introducing you as a friend for the time being), he will also try to impress you. Yes, he might want to impress you with how successful he is in life but also with things that emphasize his caring and nurturing character. This includes telling you about all his volunteer experiences and how much he loves kids. Further, simple acts of kindness can go a long way. For example, always making himself available to help you with whatever you need. Another way of impressing you would be through humor. Many women find humor to be very attractive. A guy who is truly interested in you will want to do whatever he can to make you happy!
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Thanks to the following men for their participation in this article (their initials): B-H, BL, DR, JB, MC, MS, MZ, NC, QH, YB
