I haven't posted in a while and I apologize for my disappearance but I'm back! I've learnt many things in life that are nuggets of wisdom to help you get through your life. So I decided to make a list of some of them:
a)PEOPLE DON'T CARE ABOUT YOU AS MUCH AS YOU THINK.
I'm talking of when bad times happen and who's there to help you out. Some people you expect to help often don't. -really thank those who do.
b)YOU CAN'T PLEASE EVERYONE.
No two people like same things. Learn to compromise. Take things in turn so everyone has opportunity to have what they like.
Don't stress trying to make everyone happy if it don't make yourself happy.
c)IT'S NOT WEAK/BAD TO SAY NO.
If you strongly believe something is wrong stand up for yourself. Do not let someone bully you into doing something you dislike.
d)YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE LIKE EVERYONE ELSE.
Big up own personality and own opinions. At end of day it's your life and nobody else.
e) LOVE LIFE, BE WITH WHO YOU CAN BE YOUR TRUE SELF.
The right person will love you for you and wouldn't want you to change. Plus if you put on an act when dating, you'll get comfy with them and end up being a version of you they might not love as much.
f)DON'T JUDGE YOUR LIFE BASED ON OTHER PEOPLES.
I mean jealousy, thinking you're life more dull,thinking your life is pathetic.
So many paths to happiness out there. You are going to have exciting things happen. Also you never know how hard person has life behind closed doors.
g)GET TO KNOW PEOPLE BEFORE JUDGING NEGATIVELY.
First impressions are often based on looks.
Deep down they could be awesome. No bullying or hating people. Drama is annoying.
h)IT'S OK TO ASK FOR HELP.
Instead of bottling up pain or sorrow, ask friends, professionals(doctors/therapist) etc for help. It's how we learn and better our lives.
i)VIOLENCE ISN'T THE ANSWER.
Hurting people or yourself in times of upset and anger never solves anything. Might wish revenge but it leads to bigger problems and causes drama rather than calm solution.
j)TELL PEOPLE WHO CARE ABOUT YOU LOVE THEM,
Show them how much they mean to you before they're out of your life. (family/friends).
k)NEVER STOP TRYING
Motivation may go and attitudes change but, try because someone out their is longing for opportunity you have. (e,g, school,work,family).
l)EVERYONE HAS THERE OWN PROBLEMS.
Some same as you and some not. It's what build our character.
m)DONT EXPECT TO GET ALONG WITH EVERYONE
Learn to be nice and kind to everyone as much as you are different. I don't mean befriend everyone , but no rudeness and be civil.
n)FIRST OF THINGS ARE SCARY TILL DONE.
e.g. first exam,first job interview, first meeting bfs parents....its healthy to be nervous but next time it will be loads easier.
Love Han xx
