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Draining, non-supportive and tough people are one among life's greatest challenges. In this post, i would like to talk about how you'll spot, stop and deal with the harmful people who come into your life. You deserve to have people in your life who you enjoy spending time with, who support you and who you like hanging out with.
Whenever I talk about Harmful people, the same categories seem to present itself over and over again:
Friend by History:
This is a person who you have known forever. Perhaps you went to elementary school together or you were neighbors growing up. Currently you feel guilty ending the relationship.
Friend by Closeness:
This can be someone who comes as a package with someone else in your life. Perhaps it's your partner's best friend or your friend's brother who perpetually tags along or your best friend's childhood friend. you are feeling guilty because you don't want to put your person in an awkward scenario.
Friend by Context:
This is someone whoyou see all the time in a specific area of your life–someone you work with everyday. Someone on your flag football team. somebody who lives across the hall. You are feeling guilty brushing them off because you see them all the damn time.
Sometimes these relationships are casual, but other times they can grow rotten. You end up keeping someone in your life who is jealous or has a complete different set of ethics, and this can be when they become harmful.
7 types of harmful People:
Here are the seven types of harmful people to look out for:
#1: conversational selfish people
Have you ever been talking to someone who keeps interrupting you? Perhaps I ought to revise that sentence: Have you ever been attempting to {talk|to speak} to someone who won't allow you to get a word in? conversational selfish people like to talk about themselves—or simply hear themselves talk.
They don't ask you any questions, they don't await your responses and they won't shut up. In a relationship, these people can end up being completely self-centered and never be attentive to your needs.
#2: The Straight Jacket
The straight jacket is someone who needs to control everything and everyone around them. They want to be in charge of what you do, what you say and even what you think.
You recognize the person i'm talking about–they freak out after you disagree with them and won't stop making an attempt to convince you that they're right and you ought to do what they say.
In arelationship, this person can give you no breathing space and can perpetually nag you till you're in complete alignment with them. Be careful, these people can go after your emotional, conversational and mental freedom till you have nothing left. Get out while you can!
#3: Emotional moocher
An emotional moocher is also known as ''religious evil spirit'' because they have an inclination to suck the positivity out of you or bleed you emotionally dry. These are the types of people whoperpetually have something sad, negative or discouraged to say.
In conversations and relationships, they'llnever see the positive and tend to bring everyone down with them. If you're with someone and they only have unhealthythings to say whenever you see them, watch out, it might not get better.
#4: Drama Magnet
Some harmful people are magnets for drama. one thing is always wrong. Always. And in fact, once a problem is resolved, another one emerges. And they only want your empathy, sympathy and support–but not your advice! You offerhelp and solutions, however they neverseem to want to fix anything. Instead they complain and complain.
In arelationship, drama magnets are victims and thrive during a crisis because it makes them feel important. If someonecould be a beacon for adversity, watch out, you would possibly one day become part of the drama.
#5: A JJ
My friends and i can spot a JJ from a mile away and i want to show you how to likewise. A JJ could be a jealous-judgmental person.
Jealous people are incredibly harmful because they have so much internal self-hate that they can't be happy for anyone around them. And usually, their jealousy comes out as judgment, criticism or gossip.
In line with them, everyone else is awful, bad or lacking in some way. If someone starts to enviously gossip with you about other people, watch out, this can be a harmful person—and you never understand what they are saying about you behind your back.
#6: The liar
I have plenty of liars in my life before I learned human lie detection . Liars, fibbers, exaggerators… it's exhausting to have a harmful deceiver in your life. Whether they tell very little falsehoods or major lies, it's impossible to trust a liar in a very relationship.
Dishonesty drains usbecause we are perpetually doubtingtheir words. If your intuition is ringing alarm bells, then be careful, get out before you're lied to.
#7: A Tank
A tank crushes everything in its wake. A human tank is often right, doesn't take anyone else's feelings or ideas into consideration and perpetually puts themselves first.
In a relationship, tanks are unbelievably arrogant and see their personal opinions as facts. this is|this can be} because they often assume they're the best person in the room and so they see every conversation and person as a challenge that must be won over.
They rarely see others as equals—and this may be challenging when making an attempt to form a loving connection. If {you feel|you are feeling|you're feeling} your ideas are being run over, or you aren't being respected, get out while you still can!
How to deal with harmful people
Did someone pop into your head as I explained these harmful personality types?
If you have someone in your life who you dread seeing, who doesn't respect your opinions or makes you feel bad about yourself in any way, then you need to just say no. do you feel:
- You have to constantly save this person and fix their issues
- You are covering up or hiding for them.
- You dread seeing them
- You feel drained after being with them
- You get angry, unhappy or depressed when you are around them.
They cause you to gossip or be mean.
You feel you have to impress them
You're tormented by their drama or issues.
They ignore your needs and don't hear 'no'
You deserve to have wonderful, supportive and loving people in your life. In fact, life is just too short to spend time with people that don't help you be your best self. I hope you'll use this article as your protection against harmful people!
