Last Updated on January 25, 2024 by Dean Williams
Why do some girls get all the attention? How can you get a guy to Notice you?
It can be hurtful to think that a guy you are Interested in doesn’t seem to know that you exist.
No one wants to feel unnoticed or invisible, especially to a guy that you are interested in.
It may seem like he’s only interested in the sexy, flirty types but guys will quickly lose interest in a girl that doesn’t have substance and depth.
Sure, guys will notice sexy attractive girls, it’s natural. But those types of girls are just head-turners. You have a lot more to offer than just being hot!
The good news is there are things you can do to grab his attention and get him to notice you. With the right mindset and a dose of sexy self-confidencehttps://www.usf.edu/student-affairs/counseling-center/top-concerns/what-is-self-confidence.aspx'>1, you’ll soon have him wondering how he didn’t see you standing there all along.
Quick Look: How to Get a Guy To Notice You
❤️ True confidence starts from within through positive self-talk, balanced self-care, and embracing your quirks
❤️ Flirtation is about warm eye contact, thoughtful compliments, subtle touches, and playful banter
❤️ Stay actively engaged in independent interests and passions that light you up
❤️ Leverage social media to showcase your fabulous life beyond just your crush
❤️ Say yes to spontaneous invitations aligned with your joy
❤️ Dress to impress but don’t overdo it.
❤️ Do what empowers YOU, first and foremost
❤️ Trust the right relationships will effortlessly follow from self-love
20 Ways to Make Him Notice What He’s Missing
As the old saying goes, you can’t make someone fall for you. But you CAN get him to notice you and spark his interest enough that he wants to know more. I mean, it’s YOU, right? Show him what he’s missing!
1. Be Confident With Yourself and Own It
I’m sure you’ve heard the advice “Just be confident” as the best way to get a guy’s attention.
But the truth is, that building your self-confidence takes work. You can’t go to the pharmacy and grab a bottle of those self-confidence pills, wouldn’t that be great?
Building up your self-esteemhttps://www.weber.edu/CounselingCenter/self-esteem.html'>2 comes from the inside. The way you see yourself will be the way others see you.
Remember, you have a lot to offer as an individual. Be yourself and learn to love it. If he can’t see it do you want his attention anyway?
2. Be Your Own Best Friend
Do you consider yourself a good friend? I’m sure your friends would say the same.
Learn to be a good friend to yourself. You don’t think of your friends as worthless or unlikeable so why would you see yourself that way?
Being someone a guy can rely on and talk about anything he has on his mind will make sure he is comfortable confiding in you.
Guys have trouble telling their deepest fears and secrets to their buddies, they don’t want to seem weak and unmanly. Be an outlet for his emotions and he will always come to you when he needs to share something important.
3. Have a Fulfilling Life And Be Willing To Share It
I don’t know about you, but I need some sort of routine in my life.
Going with the flow and bouncing around sounds great but in reality, it’s a recipe for disaster.
Take time for your interests and passions to be a more grounded, whole person. Doing things you love is a good way to find some escape from the crazy world we live in.
Read, work out, go hiking…whatever floats your boat! Just focus on doing the things that YOU enjoy and you will be a well-rounded person that has more to offer someone. What can be more attractive than that?
4. Widen Your Social Circle
Surround yourself with people that “Get you”, people that don’t pressure you to be someone you’re not.
You are more likely to get a guy’s attention if he sees you as a vibrant, well-liked person rather than some girl on social media looking for attention.
Find out what the guy you like is interested in and try some of the same activities or social settings. Imagine all the things you will have to talk about.
Guys find it flattering when you take an interest in what they’re into and you make the effort to give it a whirl.
5. Dress to Impress But Don’t Overdo It
It can be tempting to dress in a revealing, sexy way but that’s not necessarily the right choice for YOU.
Sure, you might make a guy’s head turn by wearing a short skirt or a low-cut top but you don’t need to put everything on the menu right off the bat.
Choose outfits that compliment your body typehttps://pubs.nmsu.edu/_c/C312/index.html'>3 and shape. Every woman can look sexy by choosing clothes that complement her body shape and her personality.
Imagine choosing clothes that are tight and uncomfortable just to show a bit of extra flesh. If you don’t feel comfortable you won’t have the confidence to be yourself.
6. Be Flirty But Classy
Flirting is a great way to get a guy’s attention. But you don’t need to be over-sexual when it comes to flirting.
The best approach is to use some playful teasing and humor mixed in with a sprinkling of playful sexual innuendos, a recipe no man can resist!
You want to keep the guy guessing and wanting more. Lead him to wonder how far you will go but always respect your boundaries.
Avoid taking selfies in various stages of undress, that’s not flirting, it’s just being easy. You don’t want your sexy pics being sent to all his buddies to share around. Have some self-respect and please, just a little class.
7. Hold Eye Contact
Holding eye contacthttps://www.scientificamerican.com/article/eye-contact-how-long-is-too-long/'>4 can be a powerful tool in flirting and getting a guy’s attention. It shows confidence, interest, and engagement, and can catch a guy’s attention.
Try these tips next time you make eye contact with a guy you are interested in.
- Catch their gaze: Briefly glance their way, then hold your gaze for a second or two before looking away gracefully. This playful peek-a-boo builds anticipation and invites them to reciprocate.
- Smile with your eyes: When you make eye contact, let your smile reach your eyes. This conveys warmth, authenticity, and genuine interest.
- The 3-5 second rule: Aim to hold eye contact for 3-5 seconds before looking away briefly. This shows confidence and attentiveness without being overly intense.
- The triangle technique: If direct eye contact feels too intense, try the triangle technique. Look at one eye, then the other, then down at their lips or nose. This still conveys interest and engagement without feeling intimidating.
- The double take: Look away, then glance back at them unexpectedly. This playful move can spark curiosity and intrigue.
- The eyebrow raise: A subtle eyebrow raise can be a flirty way to show you’re intrigued and interested.
8. Remember The Details
If you catch a guy’s attention and start chatting make sure you ask open-ended questions.
Remembering the details of his replies will show him that you are interested in what he has to say. Guys find this to be flattering. And you know, guys love to have their egos stroked.
Remembering conversations and referring back to them is conversation 101. You will be amazed at how well this works.
9. Give Compliments
Giving compliments about a guy shows that you do take notice and are genuinely interested in him.
Guys, like all of us, need to hear that people approve of their appearance, tastes, and choices.
Be specific about what you like about him but don’t lay it on too thick. The key is to be complimentary but genuine.
If you are throwing out compliments just to feed his ego he will sniff it out pretty quickly and he will put you on the pile with all the other fake girls out there.
10. Find Excuses to Touch
Touch is how you can flirt without saying a word.
Brush hands when passing things back and forth. Graze his arm gently making a point in conversation. Guide his elbow if you need to slide by closely in a crowded room.
Physical contact releases bonding hormones in us and breaks up the sexual tension. Just keep it PG enough that the touch could seem incidental if needed. You want to create chemistry, not make things uncomfortable.
11. Laugh, Smile, and Use Humor to Your Advantage
People often underestimate the power of humor.
Have you ever found yourself attracted to a guy who makes you laugh? Even if you don’t find his appearance that attractive?
It’s chemistry baby! Humor and laughter are the easiest way to get a guy’s attention. It can be especially powerful if you mix a little flirting into that humor.
It’s also a great way to find out more about a guy’s personality. You can tell a lot about what makes someone laugh. If you find that you laugh at the same things there’s a good chance you have a lot in common.
12. Realize That You Are Amazing, And He Will Too
Sometimes, attracting a guy’s attention starts with the realization that you are worthy of his attention. I mean, you’re amazing, you know it.
When you are aware of your self-worth it acts like a kind of magnet that attracts like-minded people into your life.
When you are focused on being the best version of yourself and learning to appreciate your amazingness (yes it’s a word, I looked it up!), others will naturally be attracted to you.
13. Pursue Your Passions
We all need to have goals, dreams, passions, and something to keep us focused on getting the most out of life.
Of course, you want to attract that special someone but having your own interests makes you more attractive. You’re not hanging on some guy’s every word just to make it through the day.
You have your own family and friends and while you would love to get to know him, you can make it just fine without him. It’s powerful.
14. Use Social Media To Showcase Yourself
Social media is an excellent opportunity to share snippets of your life with a guy you’re interested in.
Most of us will check out the social media profiles of someone we are interested in. It can be a good way to get an overview of someone’s interests to see if you are compatible. Of course, you can see if there is anything cringe-worthy there that you want to avoid.
Just remember that social media posts are not necessarily a true representation of someone. It’s common to post something purely to get a reaction or to fit in with the crowd.
But used the right way it can showcase who you are and give you some insight about the guy you are interested in.
15. Be Open to Spontaneity
Displaying spontaneity will show your willingness to try new things.
When you are trying to get a guy to notice you, it can help to show your sense of adventure.
This doesn’t have to mean you are willing to try some death-defying adventure sport, but if you are ready to try something new, it can add to your appeal.
Of course, stay within your boundaries and don’t agree to do something crazy just to please a guy. Stay true to yourself.
16. Leave Them Guessing
When you are trying to get a guy to notice you, sometimes a little mystery can be what you need.
Forget about spilling your life story and bearing your soul right off the bat. Keep him guessing and make him ask questions to get to know you.
You don’t need to play hard to get but give him just enough information to keep him guessing and make him intrigued and keen to know more.
17. Show Your Vulnerability
Vulnerability isn’t a weakness, it’s a chance for you to show that you are real, in touch with your surroundings, and a willingness to share the most vulnerable part of you.
Of course, it’s not ideal to show this side of you when you first meet but once you get to know someone he will find this aspect of your personality to be very attractive.
Guys aren’t meant to show their softer side so sharing your vulnerabilities with him will open the door for him to share more with you.
18. Match His Energy
When you start communicating with a guy the best way to keep him engaged is to match his energy.
When guys communicate you will notice they have a cadence or rhythm to their communication style. Matching his energy can help you with the natural flow of conversation.
If he replies promptly to your texts you should match his style to keep things flowing nicely. If you leave him hanging he is likely to lose interest and move on to someone else.
On the other hand, you don’t want to be bombarding him with texts before he gets a chance to reply. This will make you seem needy and he will probably be thinking, “Does she have a life?”
19. Accept Imperfections
None of us are perfect. If you have some idealized notion of the perfect guy you will probably be disappointed.
You will expect him to accept you with all your flaws and unique quirks so extend the same courtesy to him.
Once he knows you accept him just the way he is it’s more likely that he will feel comfortable with you and be interested in getting to know you more.
20. Expect Nothing, Invite Everything
The reality is that not every guy you are interested in will be interested in you.
The first step is getting him to notice you and then you can decide if it’s worth your time and effort to continue trying.
Don’t have any expectations and be open to the possibilities that may be there. If you approach him openly and genuinely there’s a great chance that he will notice you and more!
What’s the worst that can happen? If he can’t see you for who you are he’s probably not worth it anyway.
Summing Up: How to Get a Guy To Notice You
Getting noticed by a guy may seem out of reach, especially if you think you need to transform into someone else to get his attention. But the truth is, you already have everything you need inside: self-knowledge, courage, and willingness to grow.
When you focus on self-care, seek adventures fueled by passion, and show your authentic spirit, confidence emerges on its own.
Trust that being fully you is more than enough to be seen by the people who matter most. Any guy would be lucky to truly recognize the smart, quirky, passionate person you are beneath the surface.
Amazing possibilities are waiting for girls who love themselves fiercely without compromise. Don’t compromise yourself for anyone.
FAQ: How to Get a Guy To Notice You
Q. Should I play hard to get?
Staying a bit mysterious can stir curiosity, but don’t ice someone out with the cold shoulder intentionally. Give clear signals so he knows you genuinely enjoy talking but have your own fab life too.
Q. What if he has a girlfriend?
Flirting is most appropriate if you know for sure he’s available. If he mentions a partner, keep things friendly to avoid drama. And if he hides that but still flirts back, major red flag!
Q. How do I start up a conversation?
Look for easy situational openings about class, work, or your surroundings to chat casually before getting more personal. Asking thoughtful questions shows you want to connect versus just filling awkward air time.
Q. What if I’m rejected?
Rejection stings no matter how confident you are, but don’t take it personally! Be grateful he freed you up to meet someone ready to appreciate the gem you are. Every “no” gets you closer to the right “yes.”
Q. Should I ask him out first?
Traditional guys may want to make the first move, but asking him out herself shows a bold female goes for what she wants! Either way, showing clear interest removes the guesswork.
Q. How do I handle things if we work together?
Tread carefully mixing business and pleasure since things may get messy if it goes south. But office romances happen all the time. Keep flirty signals subtle enough that either of you can downplay it as friendliness if needed.
Q. What if he only seems interested physically?
It’s ok to enjoy some casual flirtation, but if you want more make sure you’re both seeking real emotional intimacy before getting physical. Know your standards and don’t compromise them for anyone.
