Sex is sweet,responsible sex is fancy while sex between married couples is sacred. We could say traditionally, sex was meant for recreation and as the bible puts it, before the sin, sex was part of the created order, it was good and it was engaged in freely, without inhibition of any kind, the man and the Woman, that husbands owe it to their wives, married couples should have it often, its not just about the kids and that sex is what makes you truly human(Gen 2:25, Prov5:18-19, 1Cor7:3-4, 7:5, Gen1:27-28,1Cor 7:2).

Having noted that sex as sacred as it is,should not just be about making babies, it is good to acknowledge that about 15-20 percent of marriages end, in America for example end due to sex. (divorce statistics rates for 2022). Infidelity issues are at times associated with a boring Partner in bed. However, I feel that the boring sex life among couples can still be spiced up to charm both of them with a sensation of a charm, right foem the preludes, through penetration and eventually a satisfactory ejaculation. Many have been written about sex life, including the ancient Kama sutra done by an Indian philosopher, Vatsyayana based on what I wish to suggest some of the ways we can achieve a magic spell like kind of love making, I am tired of all this shaming on media based on sexual performance.

For every event to be a success,event planners will tell you that scene decoration is necessary. Sex or rather love making,should as well be considered an event.In this case,the prelude should start right from the room and body. Many couples fail to consider this.Scenting the room, bathing and brushing your teeth should be part of the preparation. Try making sure that the room temperature is comfortable enough, has a mood enhancing music on the background and that your unwanted gadgets like mobile phones are either switched off or on a mode that are less likely to interrupt your session. Interruptions will work against your concentration and commitment in attaining your ultimate. You can add a soft lighting.I always find a gentle flickering glow of light much more romantic. Good bodily grooming before sex can heighten anticipation of pleasure and encourage tenderness. For instance,bad breath can really be a turn off during kissing, thanks to the invention of breathe freshening products available for such incidences. Setting the stage should always work towards igniting and sustaining the mood of partners.

Once the stage is set, partners should find a way to now invoke the spirit of love making-kissing and foreplay. Good foreplay can make sex more exciting.Kissing for example, releases oxytocin, serotonin and dopamine which health experts consider as feel-good hormones. When released, it helps one reduce stress and forget their troubles when around their partners making them enjoy sex even more. After some time in marriage, many couples tend to disregard the essence of foreplay. Remember sex is here to be enjoyed. Inadequate preparation before sex is likely to leave one or both partners unsatisfied, in most cases,women. Men need to understand that women, being of tender nature want tender beginnings. Men should therefore avoid the unnecessary rush with their partners, good things take time. Foreplay is not just about touching and embracing. The post modern era demands creativity. Touching, pressing, rubbing, massaging, scratching and twining should all be done creatively for sexual arousal. Everybody has a weak point.When it comes to foreplay, each partner should identify the erogenous zones of the other to trigger their sexual aousal. These can be achieved through varying the styles as Vatsayayana notes in kama sutra. Try kissing the body, breasts, between thighs, clitorial stimulation, sensual biting and scratching of the ears, lips, buttocks, legs, feet.

Now that the event has commenced,passion should bring up the other acts of both parties. This involves the sex positons. Many married couples are stuck with the obvious missionary or “man on Top” sex position. Just like dreams are irregular and somehow unpredictable, sex positions should yield out of partners’ creativity. Writers such as Babhravya and Suvarnanabha describes most of sex positions for lovemaking. Some of these that I have personally tried are as discussed. To satisfy a woman, a couple can try a widely opened position where the woman raises her body and opens wide her legs to expose her clitoris fully to the friction of intercourse, resulting to a great stimulation on her part.The mentioned writers also suggests the position of the wife of indra, where the woman brings her legs over her body then bends them at the knee. This could be a remedy for men with small penis on a woman with a deep vagina, a good way to avoid named ‘a man with a toothpick’. To add, Vatsyayana is gives suggests the twining position that works effectively when a man has a large penis on a partner with a tight or small vagina. This involves the woman wrapping herself closely on her partner with one leg across his lover’s thigh and keeps him closer to her. And because sex is more of a performance, it is therefore worth it for the sake of creativity for couples to employ some of the acrobatic positions and Yoga postures during love making to make it more fun and eniticing. The power of imagination should also hint out some sex styles that couples would find interesting as has been witnessed and tried based on some animal postures during sex.

Sex is nature’s sleeping pill. After intercourse however,it is not advisable to fall asleep on the spot. Try and cuddle with thoughts and stories that will increase and sustain your passion. Be sure to maintain the connection and desire. I believe this will save time and danger of lives lost because of sex stimulants as well as maintaining one’s esteem when it comes to love making. Remember, for matters pertaining love, everyone should act according to their own comfortability and beliefs.

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