Hate it when you are not taken seriously?

When I started working as a 24-year-old woman, I struggled. How to command attention? How not to be dismissed for my size, gender, and lack of wrinkles or gray hair?

I’ve learned hacks to appear more Senior. To be more influential. Within two years as a product manager, I was promoted to lead a team of product managers. And I’m now an MBA student at the Stanford Graduate School of Business.

These communication hacks can also help you appear more senior and be more influential.

1. Speak slower than what feels natural

When we speak fast, it’s as if we’re worried we’ll get interrupted otherwise.

I rush when I worry my thoughts aren’t worth listening to. But how do we slow down… in practice? Speech coach Jamie Chapman says that telling ourselves to speak slowly zaps the energy out of our speech.

Instead, Chapman suggests:
(a) emphasizing select words, and
(b) deliberately pausing.

2. Interrupted? Then interrupt the interrupter

Did someone jump in and take the word from you, while you were talking?

Don’t just let it happen. Reclaim the word: “May I finish?” No need to wait for a pause. Interrupt the interrupter. I first tried this in a role play in the Stanford MBA class Leadership Laboratory. It blew my mind how quickly it established my influence.

Next time, try “May I finish?” If that’s not enough, try these other tips from Wendy R.S. O’Connor.

3. Explain the bigger picture

What’s obvious to you, often isn’t to others.

By explaining the bigger picture, you help others see it too. And if you’re speaking to someone senior who already knows it, you help them see where your work fit in.

4. Avoid making statements sound like questions

“Your statement lost its effect when you ended it on a high pitch,” a group member told me. Upspeak, it’s called. I do it when I feel uncertain.

But upspeak loses credibility and influence. And it’s unnecessary. If it’s important to convey our uncertainty, we can use words like “I think.” We can even pose a question formulated grammatically as a question should be.

Caveat: Someone else’s upspeak is no excuse to be dismissive. As leaders and colleagues, we should strive to hear what our colleagues have to say even if they use this speech pattern.

Give your statements the punch they deserve.

5. Provide structure with signposts

Using signposts — that is, terms that provide structure and transitions — is a hack that instantly improves clarity.

Communication coach Alexander Lyon describes how to use “first,” “second,” and “third” to indicate shifts between our main points. He also explains classic transitions and what he calls summary transitions, to help the listener when you shift from one topic to the next.

Signposts give clarity. And clarity is influential.

6. Cut the fluff in emails

“Fine. When will the report be ready? — Jeff.”

Ever noticed how senior leaders can write such short, direct emails? I tend to embellish my message with “dear,” “hope you’re well,” “kind regards,” and other fluffy formalities.

The formalities are (often) not needed.

7. Replace exclamation marks with periods

See how junior an email saturated with Exclamation Marks looks:

Hi, all!
Hope you’re as excited as I am for tomorrow! We’re celebrating our accomplishments with cake! Join us tomorrow at 2 pm!
See you soon!

And why the exclamation marks? Why not simply:

Hi, all.
Hope you’re as excited as I am for tomorrow. We’re celebrating our accomplishments with cake. Join us tomorrow at 2 pm.
See you soon.

8. Take physical space

“Playing high (…) will look like a very open, expansive, relaxed body,” says Deborah Gruenfield, a Stanford professor and author