Long-standing Recurrent Pain Patterns

I have some long-standing Recurrent Painful Patterns that I have talked about with my mentor for many years. We discussed how these patterns are often set in our childhood, but can be much older than that. He asked me to find a new term for it, so I came up with "long-standing recurrent painful patterns." These patterns can be triggered by things in the present moment, but they are much deeper than just that. It can be helpful to know that they are old patterns in order to have compassion for ourselves.

What Are the Signs of Being Nerved?

She is describing the feeling of being "nerved" or hurt, which is a feeling of being out of control or feeling like something is wrong. She says that often when we are nerved, we react in ways that we might not expect, and that it is important to recognize the signs in our bodies that something is off. Rumination, or thinking about things over and over again, is often a sign of being nerved, as is feeling a general sense of unease or a specific emotion like anger or sadness. Lastly, some symptoms of being nerved can include dissociation, or feeling removed from the situation, and tunnel vision.

Sense of Deja Vu?

She describes how she used to be a "sitting duck" to her ULURP (uncomfortable feelings), but has since learned to be more mindful and recover more quickly. She talks about how many people have a sense of deja vu when it comes to their feelings, and how it can be helpful to look back at what might be causing those feelings.

A Woman From Sri Lanka

In 1980, a woman from Sri Lanka started her journey. She found relief in the realization that everything is perishable and that this leads to compassion for all humans, who are interesting and strange creatures who sometimes create a lot of trouble and hurt for each other.

Intention

Buddhist practice emphasizes the importance of Intention in shaping one's destiny. From mindfulness to compassion practices to resting in a wider field of awareness, the goal is to help people find a sense of ease and fullness.

She discusses about the importance of compassion and how it can be cultivated. She mentions that while compassion is important, it can also lead to burnout. A way to combat this is to cultivate a sense of spaciousness and awareness, which can lead to a boundless compassion.

Intention Setting

It is important to set intentions, which may come from a place of longing. Longing is defined as "a strong, persistent desire or craving." Intention setting is the process of creating a plan or goal, and is often considered to be a helpful tool in achieving success. The Dalai Lama has said that a "heart's intention" is actually a longing, and that it is important to take this longing seriously and let it formulate as an intention. True north is defined as "the direction toward the point of the horizon where the sun finally sets," and is often used as a metaphor for one's goal or destination. If one is feeling lost or stuck in their life, it may be helpful to sit under the stars and think about what they long for. By doing this, they may be able to better formulate their intention and achieve their goals.

Holding Poles

This is a practice which can help you to become more aware of where you are and where you want to be, in order to create a more positive future for yourself. It involves holding both poles (where you are and where you want to be) in your mind simultaneously, in order to increase the tension and allow something new to happen. Additionally, it is important to be aware of your heart's intention and make sure that it is in line with your values.

Forgiveness

Forgiveness can be a really tough thing to do. Some people have a lot of trouble with it, including myself. I think part of the reason why it's so difficult for some of us is because we've seen it being used in a self-serving way by churches and other institutions. We've seen it being used as a way to morally bully people, and that's not what it's supposed to be about. Forgiveness is something that's important for our own wellbeing, not just for the other person's. When we hold onto resentment and grudges, it only ends up hurting us in the end.

Forgiving Others and Ourselves

It can be difficult to forgive others – and ourselves – when we feel like we've been wronged. However, it's important to remember that forgiveness is not a one-time event, but rather a process that takes time and effort. It can be helpful to set an intention to forgive, and to pray for help from a higher power if needed.

Joseph Goldstein

Joseph Goldstein is a mindfulness teacher, and he was talking about how we are all clouds of experiences that come and go. He said that it is fine and that we should be aware of it. He said that we can make ourselves lighter by doing things such as making us less dense and less concrete. Jimmy,  who is actually a very close friend of Joseph Goldstein. has been through a lot in his life, including addiction and being an orphan. Despite all of this, he has found a way to give back to others through his ministry for the dying homeless. This helps him to stay sober and to keep from relapsing. We can all learn from Jimmy by opening our hearts and being available for others.