Self-esteem and self-love

  An individual's self-esteem, skills, sense of worth, and competence. It includes the individual's convictions about himself and emotional states such as despair and victory, it is your opinion about yourself.

   Smith and McKee defined self-esteem as "self-concept, which is what we think of ourselves. Self-esteem is the positive or negative evaluation of oneself and how you feel about it."

   If you have self-esteem, then there is no doubt that you have positive feelings about your abilities and a bright outlook on life in general. But if your self-esteem is low, you are likely to suffer from many problems and negative feelings that are scientifically proven to be associated with low self-esteem, which can greatly affect everything in your life from your career to your family relationships and personal life.

   Self-esteem is important because it shows us our opinion of who we are and the meaning of our worth. Therefore, it affects our identity as well as our relationship with others.

 The importance of self-esteem:

   Importance of self-respect and self-confidence for the individual Self-confidence and self-esteem have great importance in the psychological and social life of the individual, and this importance has been mentioned as follows.

1.  Psychological reconciliation:

Emotional well-being is related to the extent of self-esteem and self-confidence that a person enjoys, and in this way his sense of satisfaction and happiness, and then comfort psychological security.

2.  Self-esteem makes you more balanced and keeps you away from recklessness and aggression.

 Self-confidence makes social bonds human bonds in the light of the individual’s respect for himself and everyone around him, rejecting feelings of hatred and preventing them from infiltrating the soul.

 The individual’s self-esteem, in addition to self-confidence, gives the most noteworthy inspiration for education, acquiring experiences that will enhance his mental, social and logical capacity in various fields, and he constantly tries to acquire and teach everything new, continuing to progress for the better.

5  . Business success:

 The person’s confidence in his abilities and his appreciation for them makes him bound to carry out the procedures and succeed in them, in addition to his belief in himself and his abilities, which makes him necessarily perform tasks and overcome difficulties and obstacles.

6. facing problems:

 The individual faces many tensions and problems that can threaten the process of implementing the goals that he has set for himself. However, the individual’s confidence in his abilities makes him more prepared to manage, address and manage issues and emergencies smartly and strongly, in addition to maintaining self-control in light of the difficult circumstances faced by the individual.

Factors affecting self-esteem:

1. The environment and the family: children see themselves through their parents' view of them, and that vision accompanies them to adulthood.
2. Other people's opinions and ratings.
3. Subjective thoughts: Do you think of yourself positively or negatively 
4. Personal aspirations: What is your vision for the future and how do you want to be in the future?
5. Appearance: Appearance is an important factor in building self-esteem for many people.
6. Your achievements: The goals you have achieved give you an incentive to progress towards achieving more goals and looking for the best continuously.

Obstacles to self-esteem and self-confidence:

   Self-confidence and self-esteem are among the most important personal qualities that a person enjoys. They are the path to self-success and achieving social harmony. However, many obstacles affect the individual’s self-confidence and self-esteem. Here are the most important of these obstacles.

• chronic diseases.
• obesity.
• Congenital malformations or impairments and permanent.
• damage caused by accidents.
• aging.

2. Emotional obstacles :

 3. Mental Obstacles :

4. Economic obstacles

 A man or woman may also be exposed to sudden economic crises despite the precautionary measures taken,  constant fear of these crises, or comparing a person to his critical scenario with others, and his belief that what he has now is not his property. And it is sufficient for him, and distrust the intentions of the surrounding community.  The constant willingness of a man or a woman to worry about obtaining gains.

Types of self-esteem

  People with high self-confidence regularly have the following.

2. Low self-esteem :

   Several factors also lead to low self-esteem, including genetics, physical appearance, weight, mental fitness problems, social level, emotional experiences, and peer pressure or bullying.  People with low self-esteem often have:

1. Extreme self-criticism and dissatisfaction.
2. Chronic inability to choose and an exaggerated fear of error.
3. Excessive sensitivity to criticism, hating critics and thinking of them as attackers.
4. Striving for perfection, wan also leads to frustration at not reaching it now.
5. The nervousness feeling of guilt or exaggeration of past mistakes. 
6. Pessimism and negative and general appearance.

People with low self-esteem tend to be overly critical of themselves.  Therefore, some of them depend on the praise of others to evaluate themselves, and others measure their value in the form of their success, as they see that others will accept them if they succeed, but they will not accept them if they fail.

quotes on self-esteem

   According to José Vincent Bonnet, “The importance of self-respect is clear, as lack of self-esteem is not a loss of esteem for others, but a rejection of oneself.”

   "Your idea of yourself will be reflected in your behavior.  You simply cannot act contrary to this idea, even if you use all your willpower.” Maxwell Maltz

"Love yourself first and everything else is in order.  You have to love yourself to do anything in this world." Lucille Ball

“To establish true self-esteem, we must focus on our successes and forget about the failures and negative events in our lives.” Dennis Whiteley

How do you measure your self-esteem?

If you have bad feelings about yourself and the lifestyles around you, there is a big threat that your self-esteem will be low.  Here, we suggest you speak with a social worker to dig deeper.  You can also seek the Rosenberg Scale of Self-Esteem, which was developed by sociologist Maurice Rosenberg and is widely used in social science research.  With this scale consisting of quite a few questions, with scores from zero to 30, you can determine your self-esteem, as any score below 15 indicates low self-esteem.

self-esteem theories:

Many early theories advised that self-esteem was a basic human motive or need. 

  Maslow also emphasizes that a more valid expression of self-esteem is the kind that emerges in the respect we deserve from others more than in adulation.

  Modern theories of self-esteem explore the reasons why humans motivate humans to maintain their respect.

 According to terror control theory, self-esteem acts as a protective approach and reduces anxiety about life and death.

  Self-respect is essential because it indicates to us our opinion of who we are and what our value means. Therefore, it affects who we are as well as our relationship with others.

Self-esteem components

There is almost agreement on healthy self-esteem and desired self-esteem which consists of two main components.

1. Feeling of value: an individual feels that he has his importance, value, and, role among those to whom he belongs, and it arises primarily from the respect of parents for their son during the period of upbringing.
2. A sense of competence: The person believes that he can carry out duties and work and accomplish them in the required manner.

building self-esteem

 How do you build self-esteem?

   Many researchers and specialists in self-esteem and the psychology of self-esteem have proven through studies and experiments that self-esteem grows and increases when certain behavioral applications, concepts, and positive thoughts are practiced.

   Robert Reasoner believes that these elements are the basis for shaping self-esteem:

Nathaniel Branden, one of the founders of the psychology of self-esteem, sees these pillars as the basis for shaping self-esteem:

   Here are some important tips for building self-esteem vered in self-improvement books.

   Unfortunately, says Winch, a man or woman never stops criticizing himself when he feels low in self-esteeesteemause he tends to spoil himself to the hilt by criticizing him.  Winch concludes that this feeling of need is combated through self-compassion.  When a man or a woman feels that he will begin to criticize himself, he should ask himself if he can say such things to a close friend, and the answer will most likely be no, because people sympathize more with their friends themselves, so a person should think carefully when he says to himself  That all the things he's doing are wrong, and Winch points out that doing so will help avoid destroying them.  Self-esteem, making time for a focal point of self-building instead.

   You must accept yourself as your equal and advantages, you are good enough and worthy of love, and work on your flaws.

   Make them your strengths, no matter what other people think and say about you.

3. Don't pressure yourself :

   Do not be you and others on you.  You put pressure on yourself and put their needs before yours.  You give in to what he says about you.  In this way, you make your mind think that you are unimportant and do not have priorities in anything, and the effect on you will be negative, and this does not mean that you neglect your family and friends, but for yourself, you have a right, so do not waste his right at the expense of others and give him some time.

4. Stop the negative talk :

   Stop telling yourself that you are worthless and helpless.  The human mind believes in what is being said, so watch your thoughts when you talk to yourself and replace your negative talk with positive talk that gives you the motivation to develop yourself and move forward continuously.

   Self-awareness is very important for self-esteem and success in life, and sometimes a lack of self-esteem is due to a lack of awareness of who you are and your true worth.

   So take the time to evaluate yourself, identify your strengths and weaknesses, define who you are, discover your passion, and define your values and principles.

   Defining goals and striving to achieve them is a necessity in the life of every individual, as it is that purposeful process through which you know your destination to which you will go. Achieving goals increases your confidence in yourself and the confidence of others in you.  The progress he seeks to achieve, and work to achieve the desires of individuals.

7. mind upgrade :

   Sound thinking is what distinguishes the personality from others, and it is an ability that needs training, and one of the necessities of human development is growth in it, and with it, the individual can overcome his problems and improve his conditions.

8. Cultivating optimism in oneself :

    Positivity is necessary for development, as it distances the soul from feelings of frustration and defeat, which increases the individual's effectiveness and achievement, and enhances his entrepreneurial spirit.

And at the end of this article.
   Self-esteem may make people believe that they deserve happiness.  Understanding this is fundamental and universally beneficial, as developing positive self-esteem increases the ability to treat others with respect, benevolence, and intimacy, leading to richer interpersonal interactions and avoiding destructive ones.