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He’s Just Not That Into You. The No-Excuses. Truth To Understanding Guys.
1. He's just not that into you, since he's not dating you. - If he would like you, then believe me, he would go on a date with you.
☆ An excuse is a polite refusal. Men are not afraid of "destroying friendship".
☆ If you can find him, he can find you. If he will want to find you, he will do it.
☆ You like to be leader, but maybe he doesn't want to dance at all. Some habits are dictated by human nature and not without reason last unchanged throughout the ages.
☆ "Hey, maybe we'll meet at a party / in a bar / at a friend's house" is not a date. Even if you live in New York.
☆ Men don't forget how much they like you. Therefore, hang up this handset.
☆ You are worthy that someone go on a date with you.
2. He's just not that into you, since he doesn't call to you. - Men can use a telephone.
☆ If he doesn't call to you, then it mean that he doesn't think about you.
☆ If he makes you hope in something and then he doesn't keep his word on less important matters, so it will be on great matters too. Remember this and understand that he is not worried that he will disappoint you.
☆ It's not worth being with someone who doesn't keep his promises.
☆ If he can't afford a small effort and do something that would calm you down and alleviate the recurring conflict, it means that he doesn't respect your feelings and needs.
☆ You deserve to have him call you.
3. He's just not that into you, if he doesn't date you. - Spending time together is not dating.
☆ Guys will tell you how they feel even if you don't want to listen them or believe them. "I don't want to make a serious relationship with you" or "I'm not sure if you're the one."
☆ Better than nothing is not enough for you !
☆ If you don't know where your relationship is going, you can stop for a moment and ask about it.
☆ Unclear ? Not good.
☆ Somewhere out there is a guy who wants to tell everyone that he is your boyfriend. Quit playing and go look for him.
4. He's just not that into you, if he doesn't sleep with you. - The man you really like wants to touch you. Always.
☆ People keep telling you who they are. If a man claims he can't be a monogamist, you should believe him.
☆ Closeness with someone is great. Why would he be afraid of that ? Call people by their name, a friend is a friend, then go look for a guy who, being with you, will not be able to keep his hands from you.
☆ It will take longer to regain lost self confidence than to find a new guy, so set your priorities accordingly.
☆ You want to spend the night just hugging - buy yourself a dog.
☆ Somewhere out there is someone who wants to make Love with you, tigress.
5. He's just not that into you, if he cheats on you. - "No excuse justifying betrayal."
☆ There is no excuse for betrayal.
☆ When the other person temporarily loses the ability to think sensibly, you are not responsible for it.
☆ Betrayal is betrayal. It doesn't matter who it was or how many times it happened.
☆ Betrayal comes easier each time. Only at the beginning it's difficult when the betrayer feels a burning guilt because he has failed someone's trust.
☆ Betrayal doesn't pay. ( The betrayer must pay for it. )
☆ The one who cheats is at his own harm, because he will not be able to stay with you any longer.
6. He's just not that into you, if he wants to see you only when he is drunk. - If he will like you, he will want to meet you also when his judgment is not disturbed.
☆ His words don't count if he's not sober. Any "I love you" ( and others in this kind ) uttered under the influence of anything stronger than orange juice are not considered credible in court and in life.
☆ If he wants to be with you, talk and make love only when he is drunk, it's not love - it's sport.
☆ Bad boys are really bad.
☆ You deserve to be with someone who doesn't feel the need to be intoxicated in your company.
7. He's just not that into you, if he doesn't want to marry you. - Love heals fear of commitment.
☆ "I don't want to marry" and "He doesn't want to marry me" is completely different. Check in which category your guy belongs to.
☆ Since you have different views on marriage, what are you still disagreeing on ? Time to take an inventory.
☆ If you don't feel like you are in a hurry, why do you delay ?
☆ Somewhere in the world there is a guy who wants to marry you.
8. He's just not that into you, since he breaks up with you. - In the words : "I don't want to see you again" there are no hidden meanings.
☆ No words can change reality and make a break up untrue. This is not negotiable. A break up is a decisive action, not a decision taken democratically.
☆ Stop talking to him. Let him miss you.
☆ You don't have to remind him that you are great.
☆ A "classy" woman doesn't listen news about her ex-partner.
☆ Somewhere out there is a guy who will really be glad you won't get back with your hopeless ex-boyfriend.
9. He's just not that into you, if he disappears. - Sometimes, without him, you have to decide it's over.
☆ It's possible that he is in hospital with amnesia, but more likely he doesn't care about you.
☆ No answer is your answer.
☆ Don't give him a chance to reject you again.
☆ Let his mother yell at him. You don't have time for this.
☆ Sometimes you have to close the door behind you alone.
☆ It's no riddle - the guy is gone and he wasn't good enough for you.
10. He's just not that into you, if he is married ( or if for other, even the most ridiculous reasons he can't bind with you ). - When you can't love without restrictions, it's not love.
☆ He has a wife.
☆ If he is not all yours, he is still hers.
☆ There are wonderful, loving, SINGLE men in the world. Find one for yourself.
☆ If the guy is shouting insults about his ex-wife or mourning parting with the previous girlfriend, find yourself another companion to a cinema.
☆ Don't be the second one.
☆ You are not easily forgettable. Let him find you when he's ready.
11. He's just not that into you, if he is a selfish bastard, tyrant or monster freak. - If you really love someone, you want to make that person happy.
☆ Life itself is hard enough, so you better not choose a difficult companion to share it with.
☆ You deserve someone who will be nice to you at all times. ( You must be nice to him too ).
☆ You can only shout if someone is in danger.
☆ The freaks' place is in the circus, not in your apartment.
☆ Make space in your life for wonderful things that you are worth.
☆ Don't lose faith. Do you have another choice ?
Excerpts and quotes from the book : ''He’s Just Not That Into You. The No-Excuses. Truth To Understanding Guys.'', Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. I highly recommend this book ! :)
