Father’s Day originated and was celebrated first on June 19, 1910, in the state of Washington. However  

it was not until 1972 – 58 years after President Woodrow Wilson made Mother’s Day official. Fathers day

was not always met with the same enthusiasm as Mother’s Day, simply because Fathers do not have the same sentimental appeal as mothers.

I agree with this statement as I find that fathers are not considered as important as mother’s as I believe it because sadly there are many bad father’s who give good fathers a bad name. Often fathers are made to be Oofs , stupid, clumsy, mean, rude, uncaring and in all honestly there are many fathers like that. If you look to the most famous fictional fathers, I look at Homer Simpson. Homer in a way reminds me a lot of my father.

My father Moses was a hard worker and although in my life even after my mom and dad divorced, often they would keep to himself, leaving myself and sister to our own devices whether that was watching too much television, playing too much games and even eat too much and not the healthiest foods.

Dad wasn’t the sentimental type, hugging type, lovely dovey type. Dad was the type we saw every other weekend, went to Toys R’ Us and then Chuck e cheese or we’d order in and then left to our own during the weekend until we were back with mom again, where we were given where we lived with the worse type of father and grandfather who put us down, cursed at us, spewed hate to my mom, sister and I.

Sorry to say I did not even have a lot of good examples of men in my life, except my other grandfather Moses Senior, who when we would come stay in the weekend, he would go out of his way to stock the fridge with My sister and I’s favorite foods, taking a trip to Sam’s club.

He was a tough WII vet but had a heart of gold who loved My sister and I, to this day I remember his loss when he died wishing I had spent more time with him.

For myself, becoming a father has been my biggest gift to my daughter Mikaylah who is now 10 years old. Deep down I always wanted to be a father, so I could grow to be the best example of a father breaking the cycle of previous fathers.

I am far from perfect, I do make mistakes and fail, but each day I go to work, feed and support the family as I watch my daughter grow up from infant to child to eventually tween, teen and adult. Watching before my eyes her grow up , growing up so fast as I look at my own life, reflect on my childhood and compare her childhood to mine, but there is no comparison.

These times are much more complicated then those times I grew up as a child, for one we had no social media, add social media bullying and new age problems I did not grow up with. As a father I am truly unsure how to deal with some of the issues today as my daughter gets older, she will experience problems I never imagined would exist.

I find that constantly compare myself to other fathers, better fathers in my view. Fathers who have better jobs, make more money, better providers overall and I look in the mirror at my own failures although I work each day to better myself. I don’t know if I daughter sees those differences in other fathers, as she is only 10 but I believe one day she will see those other dads who are more successful, better careers and overall, better in every aspect of the way.

We as dads are ALL different and from what I have seen, what we think and see can be deceiving because those fathers may abuse their families, alcoholics, drug abusers and terrible fathers from the outside they look great, something I need to remember.

To all dads out there, remember that we ALL can be better, kinder, gentler and that it’s great to be a great provider but important to be present, involved with a loving touch. Our children who grow up today will not grow up the same we did, but we must continue to self-sacrifice to give them our best because time slips away so fast.

For all the dads out there, have a blessed day!