On May 25, 2018 I went to the Wedding of my classmates. It was the first time that I get to attend a wedding with the bride and groom being my College friends.
It was a very memorable moment. I witnessed their union as husband and wife. I was also a witness to how the groom was trying to compose himself as tears were gushing out of his eyes, running down like beads of raindrops.
Before the wedding I was so excited to learn that I was invited. Some of my College Friends were invited too. "This was going to be a mini-reunion of some sort," I thought to myself.
On the day of the wedding I learned that only a few made it to the wedding. I was sad of course, the prospect of having a mini-reunion excited me since it has been years that I have not seen any of my college classmates; only on facebook.
I was disappointed with the turnout of attendance from my college classmates. I know we're busy and all. But attending a wedding of two of your college friends happens once in a blue moon (at least for me). I also realized that the invitation itself means that your presence on their wedding day will mean a lot to the couple. That is one of the best things that could happen to someone - finding ones soulmate and being united with them. And them wanting you to be there means you're important to them, that they want you to be a part of the first day of their lives as a couple.
But this is not the main topic of this blog. I do hope we get a chance to schedule a reunion or something.
During the wedding I realized so many things. These things I really want to share with you as I have been thinking about it myself for quite sometime.
I really need to save up
During the last part of the reception - when the newly-weds thanked everyone who made the event possible - the bride told everyone that it took them a year or so to plan their wedding. I believe it took a year for them to plan the whole event out. But the preparation on the financial side of things took longer. I don't have plans to settle yet. But knowing the amount of preparation they did financially made me realize that I have to really be serious on saving up for my future. I need to get my priorities straight and start saving up for the bigger things. Because right now I'm not proud of the digits on my savings account, most of my expenses go to food and I think I have been in a very long food coma and I needed to be jolted back to reality: that 6 letter word that has caused so many anxieties to people: F-U-T-U-R-E.
I miss my college friends
I know, I know. When we grow old and graduate from college we meet new friends, get more busy, and we lose connections with our close friends in college. We forget the good old times we've shared with them. Because of the newer things we are currently juggling in life we have forgotten the very important relationships that were formed during our college days.
I miss my college friends. I miss our P.E. class where we get to dance to a variety of genres. I miss our ROTC every Sunday where it was torture and we laugh at each other's haircuts because it looked horrible. I miss our sleepless nights during our thesis days. And many memorable moments we've shared during college.
On our commute back to Manila (because the reception was in Cavite) we were able to reminisce so many fond memories - some were funny but most of it were right out hilarious. We get to reconnect with one another and recall so much. We could go on for hours but the commute was short and sweet to say the least.
Growing apart is inevitable
I miss my old friends. But sometimes in life we grow apart from them. The college friends whom we thought will be in our lives forever may not be there in the future. I know, it hurts. But that's something we need to understand and come to terms with. There are people in our lives who are there to somehow play a temporary role while others stay for life. They will be there on your wedding day, first birthday of your youngest child, and so on. These are the ones you need to cherish and appreciate. If you haven't connected with them yet because life always gets in the way of things, let them know that you still think of them. Let them know that you're there for them. A simple SMS or wave from you can make total difference.
College is one of the best experiences of my life - at least for me it is. The people I met and the experiences I had made my 4 years in college memorable and fun! I get to experience so much - the roller-coaster ride of highs and lows. And I will never change anything about it. I will be forever grateful to the people I met and had become a part of my life and also the experiences that made it worth-remembering and sharing.
Life happens and what you need to do is to embrace it. Embrace the progress and transition but also enjoy the whole process.
