Let's talk about Sex Baby; let's talk about you and me; let's talk about all the good things, all the bad things, sex baby. Let's talk about sex - alright. Let's talk about sex 😁

I'm sure you remember the song - by American hip-hop trio Salt-n-pepa, released in August 1991 as a single from their Black magic album. The 3minutes plus music inspires, if you listen to the words. 

Well, maybe some of you weren't born then, some were far older; but I was still a young girl at the time. And I danced to it. Did I hear you say: 'what'?! Com'n, it was a dance hall music. Those of us who were around to witness it, had fun. 

You know, back in the days, American music was the in-thing. And, we were in the habit of writing some of those songs down, and memorizing them. Boy! Sometimes, I wish those days can come back - days of sheer ignorance and beautiful sin. Yes, beautiful sin, cos my parents never told me to stop singing it. In fact, they ignored me to my fate 😁

But I won't take that trash from my kids; no way. They are not permitted to sing that  - not in their age. You see, in those days while we committed innocent sin, these days sin is no longer innocent - it wears a thick suit, with a bowler hat and has a walking stick to match. Did you just squirm? Of course, the sin of this generation stinks; the rot can even make the dead rise again. 

Anyway, this text is not about the sins of yesteryear and how they affected us. This text is about the sex between husband and wife. When was the last time, or how often do, you sit down and talk about this all important subject? I mean, not about how one of you is not doing it right; but how you are enjoying the thing and the spice you are bringing into the game. 

See, many of us from the old generation have brought our holy sin into the new era. Back then, the last thing my parents would ever discuss was about sex. Anyway, the truth is I doubt if they would mention the subject - even privately - to themselves. Okay, let me just be honest: I never heard them talk on the subject. 

Well, let's leave the issue of our parents. Today, how many Couple talk about sex - when you are not complaining about it, advising your children about it, sharing the latest news or celebrity gossips on it - I mean just honestly discussing, the way you talk about money issue, religious issue?

Do you know, when you talk about something, your mind deliberately takes a look at that thing. Don't get me wrong - I'm not better at it either. We grow everyday. But I realized that if we throw all the inhibitions, and attack the subject in a healthy way for the purpose of growing and succeeding at it, a lot of marriages would be saved from breaking. 

I mean seriously, couples - legally married male and female - can take a look at this. What you talk about, you conquer; what you don't talk about, conquers you. Having sex is not where the intimacy is; but openly talking about it, with the intention to get the best, I'm sure that is. 

Funnily, some men would rather talk about sex with their side chicks, than have a real conversation of it with their wives. The same goes with some women - they would open up on the subject with their hangouts, and pretend to be holy shit with their husbands. If you didn't like your partner, why did you marry? And if you think your partner is no longer the person you envisage, why shy away from addressing the issue? 

I doubt if you would act in the same way if the issue was business. In fact, when it comes to business and partnership people are willing to talk to find a common ground; marriage should be much the same, even much more seriously. 

Hmm. I hope I'm not talking too much on this matter; bottom line, go home and do the needful - talk about sex, baby; break the barriers. Let your friends visit you and see you having a hearty laugh on the subject. Shame the devil. Sex is your right as married couple; when you refuse to share it in open discussions, the devil steps in to help you. You wouldn't want that I'm sure. 

So, let's leave it at this for now. And, this isn't saying some of you ain't pro on this. I know a married couple who are counselors on the subject. Just looking at the way they related, you would want to be married, and married again. 

This married couple saved a lot homes by introducing activities that brought couples together; activities that made them leave the children at home to attend to their personals. Because some couples don't realize what is hitting them, before they find out, it becomes too late. 99.9% of the time, the trouble is not money {though that too, has a good percentage}; neither is the issue most times about in laws {that too, counts}. Let's not go into all the likely problems. 

The issue bro, sis, nearly 100% of the time is sex. If couples would just open up and tell you. One wants this style, the other doesn't like it; one can spend hours on it, the other just want a few seconds. One wants morning sex, the other thinks the night religious hour is better. 

Com'n, it's your thing; you're both involved. What are you doing about it? How are you talking on the matter? Before you see the pastor, or the psychologist, or just about any third party, how have you addressed the issue? It falls on your laps first, before any other person. 

Let's preach this gospel: on the pulpit, in the market place, in offices. We need to save families. 

Hey, let's talk about sex. Right now.