Right guys. You’ve met someone you like. They seem to like you. They’ve agreed to meet you for a first date drink.

And now you’re nervous.

What are you going to talk about? What are you going to wear? Where should you go?

Well, before you tie yourself in knots, just remember: a first date is more about NOT making a bad impression. So be yourself, smile, and avoid these first date Blunders, and you’ll be golden.

Blunder One – Talking About Yourself Too Much

You might be an interesting chap. But that doesn’t mean the entire conversation should be about you, and you alone.

When it comes to dating, getting to know someone better is the best bit (well, one of the best bits). So, don’t dominate proceedings, otherwise you’ll come off as a tad rude and big-headed.

Blunder Two – Being Too Personal, Too Soon

There’s a time and a place for pouring out your heart. And it’s not during a first date.

The moment you start rummaging in the cupboard for skeletons is the moment you come across as needy and emotionally unstable.

Keep your deepest and darkest secrets under lock and key; keep it light and jovial. And for the love of all that is good in this world, don’t mention your ex. Bad. Idea.

Blunder Three – Not Listening

Pardon?

Yeah, not nice, is it? Not giving your date your undivided attention is just plain rude. Listen to what they have to say. Be engaged. Ask questions and pay attention to the answers. Anything less and you’ll be eating noodles in your pants, alone, for the foreseeable future.

Blunder Four – Not Looking Sharp

If you turn up unshaven and unkempt then it will look like you don’t care enough about yourself or your date. And frankly, that’s a bad look to have.

Wear a nice shirt, spray on some deodorant, brush your hair. That’s it really; no need to hire a tux. But if you dress well and feel good about how you look, you’ll exude confidence and show that you’re placing at least some importance on the date.

Blunder Five – Trying to Be Too Cool

On the flipside, trying to be TOO cool is a sure fire way of missing out on a second date.

No-one really wants to date the Fonz, so take it down a notch. Be respectful, don’t play games, and if you find yourself saying “and the lady will have…” when ordering food or drink, just stop.

Be yourself. It was good enough to land the date in the first place, and it’s really the only long-term strategy worth sticking to. And do you know what? You’re pretty cool already.

First dates are crazy, nerve-filled, butterfly-in-the-stomach inducing events. But they can also be super fun. Don’t place yourself under too much pressure. Just keep things light and breezy, and you’ll be on the fast track to date number two!

So guys, have you made any of these first date blunders? Let us know on Facebook or Twitter!

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