It’s not so easy for men to find ways to get their ex back as many of them find it difficult to express how they truly feel especially when it comes to their woman. Men will let their pride overtake the true feelings they have leading them to making more mistakes in relationships which can eventually result in a Breakup.

There is one thing that men have to their advantage and that is the determination they have when they truly want something, and the persuasiveness they bring with it. So when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back it is best to use this to your advantage.

One of the first things to think about when getting her back is the realistic expectations that you put on it. You may have tried to get her back once before and failed or it may be the first time you’ve tried something like this. Either way, you must go into this realistically with realistic goals and expectations of the outcome.

Keep in mind that getting a relationship back after a breakup does not happen overnight and it may even take weeks or months for anything remotely positive to happen.  The whole point once you’ve come to the decision of getting her back is to be patient however long it takes. By having the right approach and avoiding the following mistakes you should be on the right path to getting her back fast

Let the negative feelings go.

We all have a difficult time with a breakup and you may still be feeling hurt and depressed even though you have spent time apart. As you start to make plans on getting her back you must let these feelings of sadness and anger go and replace them with feelings of happiness – even if it’s just at the thought of winning her back. If you’re not happy you’re not going to be positive enough to make anyone else feel good and when she sees this in you then you have less of a chance of getting her back.

Avoid trying to persuade her to come back to you.

This is one thing that many men have in common when it comes to getting their ex back and that is pushing their ex into getting back with them and unfortunately it never really works. Acting this way will only make her want to get further away from you. So you must avoid trying to persuade her to come back to you by nagging her all of the time etc. Bare in mind that when you broke up she wanted space so respect her wishes. If you fail to do this and continue to bombard her with persuasion you will never get her back in your life and will lose her for good.

Don’t try to buy her back.

One of the most common mistakes to make when trying to get an ex girlfriend back is to try and win her over by buying her flowers and expensive gifts. Men seem to think that this is the what their ex actually wants and they don’t stop to think about what it is that they need to change in order to get her back. Trying to buy her love back is very similar to trying to persuade her to love you again. Instead, why not try simply taking time to talk to her and listen to what she has to say and be open about your feelings as this will be much more effective in getting her back.

Let her have the time she needs to make the right decision.

When a relationship has broken down one  of the most important things to do is look back at the reasons why it fell apart. Give her the space she needs to gather her own thoughts and use this time to look back on the actions you’ve taken that may have led to the breakup. Most of the time it’s not what you did but what you didn’t do. So do as she requests and give her time to get her head around the situation.

Work on your own issues.

As you look back on the issues that you may have caused and the mistakes that you made it is now time for you to work on them. If you are sincere in getting your relationship back on the right track then you must be sure that the problems of the past are not repeated. No one expects you to be perfect at all because that’s just impossible, but you can work on being more responsive to her. Once you have made all the changes that you can on the issues you know were a problem, then it is alright to move forward with getting her back.

Take time to contact her again.

You have worked towards this stage for a while and now you are feeling mentally, physically and emotionally ready to speak to her again. Now is the time to start building contact with her by starting with a few short phone calls. This can lead to meeting up in person and going on friendly dates. Think of this as the two of you starting again and making the relationship a stronger one this time around. Keep in mind that although you are more than ready to give this relationship another go your ex may not be at this time so make sure that your intentions are clear.

Learn to listen to her more.

This is the last, but the biggest step to take when it comes to keeping the relationship on track for many years to come and that is taking in what she has to say and being aware of her actions towards you. So once you have successfully got in contact with her and are meeting up regularly, watch out for the signs that she is giving you. Does she giggle a lot? Does she touch your arm frequently when speaking? Learning how to read these signs will show you when it is the right time to move further forward in getting her back as your girl.

Remember, there is no guarantee that these tips will work for you and your situation. As you know every relationship is different and as a result there are many outcomes that can occur. However, by following these steps on how to win her heart again you will have a much better chance of success.