My kid Dishith is now 5 years and over the last 4 weeks he is talking a lot. May be we are observing more because it is school holidays now for 8 weeks. Summer Holidays are good in a way that the kids are meant to spend more time with parents and have more play time. Unfortunately with office and working parents, we could not get holidays like him. The question he asked me, if it is holidays for me why your office has not given you holidays, tell them you need to have holidays. Yes these words are from child unknown to the world but it is real and is required. In sweden, during the months of july and august summer holidays every one takes atleast 4 weeks holidays and if both parents are working then 4 weeks by each parent will make it 8 weeks. The office and professional culture in sweden is so much accommodative to family life Im really surprised that office do take care of family and child life. 

Usually in every house, with mum and dad for kids we play david and goliath character, one good and one bad depending on the personality and the situation. In my house dad is the david and mum takes the character of goliath, and usually in almost all houses this is the situation I learned. It seems being with kids all the time and thinking responsibly and make them learn is the priority for mums and play and have happy time is dads priority. Is this true in every house, well Im not sure but seems to be 

Initially I was very skeptical and not very happy with this and wanted both of us to be very indulgent and playful, one simple test was put to me, every day he is writing one page in his holiday book activities , try doing this with your playful way. It took me almost 2 hours to make him write 6 lines and the writing as well came very bad, when compared to other pages. Im disappointed with the result, I really thought that they will listen to you even if there is no element of authority.

This is some thing very basic difference between the Indian schooling and parenting and western schools and more so the Montessori education. Im very much impressed with western schools and Montessori and all but now am convinced that it needs to be mix of play and education, so we need to have both good and bad characters. 

There are some results because of this good/bad authoritative style which Im not very happy with. During the play time with me, many a times my kid says he doesn’t like mama and talks some things which are very painful to hear. He absolutely loves mama then why is he talking like this. Im taken aback and thought so much and had disagreements with my wife about her style of parenting and this has led to lot of cold wars etc. This summer holidays has given me more time and opportunity to see the kids tantrums and the things they say to run away from reading time. 

Today morning now Im observing his tantrums and am convinced that there needs to be an element of authority in parenting. I think it should not always be that mum is bossy and dad is good or otherwise, dad is bossy and mum is good. Both of them should take turns and make efforts to be more involved with the kids and understand need for both playfulness and authority as well

Well hope I can play part of goliath and be authoritative, and my kid can accept me in that role, looking forward to my next time..