There are fundamental rules if you want to be successful in the dating game.

First of all what does mean being successful on dating?

-Get a second date?

-One night stand?

-Possible Relationship opportunity?

It all depends on what do you want. This is the first rule. Figure out”What do you want?” If you don’t know, then it is going to be stressful. To be in control you need a game plan. To have a game plan you need a purpose. What is it?

If you want “just fun” then you make that obvious. Tell your date (from the first moment) that you are not looking for anything serious. So both of you do not waste time trying to figure out what is going on. If both parties up to then you can have a good time. You don’t have to talk about future plans etc. Have fun convo, jokes etc and move on to next level.

If you are looking for a serious relationship then the first rule is “DO NOT LIE”  Don’t lie about your past, present life and future plans. If you want her to be your partner for life, you have to make sure she takes you for whoever you are. Pros and cons. If not then move on. If you think she is not for you then move on again. otherwise, you will be wasting your time and hers.

If you don’t read books don’t tell her that you do. If you don’t like travel do not tell her that you do. etc.

People can change up to a certain level for sure but you can not change yourself based on lies. It is silly. You are who you are. That’s it. You might start reading a different type of books due to change but you not gonna start reading because of your relationship. So never lie.

The second rule is, to be honest with yourself. Is she the right person for me? Don’t stick with physical qualities or likes. Appearance change. People get old. Appearance change but character stays the same. You need someone to talk, have fun, be successful together, fight together. Good times, bad times. When you need support, advice, her boobs will not help you. When she needs her side your six pack will not be enough. If you like someone and decide to be together then you take her with everything. Negative and positive. As long as you accept that all the challenges can be deal with.

Second date; If you want a second date then ask for it. If you don’t ask you don’t get. Or get refused so you can move on.

Just remember to be open and honest. Don forget that not everyone is your match. Do not take it as a defeat and have an ego war. Move on.