Labrador suggested that, first and foremost:
Get rid of the sense that I need defenses. Sure, the “reality” is that there are home security insurances and Protective Measures against the human body and the property, but also the “reality” is that one doesn’t have to make the world revolve around such elements.
This is a great point. I think every time I lean toward needing to protect myself, I am more likely to be in victim mode. Taking actual, real-world protective measures is entirely different from functioning from the need to protect. When adopting the latter mindset, I keep looking for things that might attack me.
And because Labrador doesn’t function from the defense-focused mindset, he could make even me understand this.
This also aligns with what HW and I have been talking about. HW had this great insight: emotional acknowledgment doesn’t equate to agreement in opinions. Thus, emotional acknowledgment first, disagreements second.
As in, no matter what someone says, in any situation, it is worth first emotionally acknowledging someone’s statement and then moving on to the disagreement.
This makes so much sense. There is no situation whatsoever, in which a human being doesn’t have emotions. Thus, Emotional Acknowledgment is a matter of intelligence. It’s more logical than so-called logic. (For example, it is not logical to tell someone who is crying to stop crying, yet some of the extreme “objectivity” and “rationality” advocates would say that it is illogical to cry, because crying doesn’t solve anything. So, instead of acknowledging the emotions of the crying person, they’ll keep repeating what sounds “logical” to them: “Just stop crying.” … which is actually the most unintelligent thing to say, in that situation.)
On top of that, this philosophy aligns with what Nebelung says: observe emotions, acknowledge, accept, release.
Basically, all these people are talking about the same things. And I know from first-hand experience how grateful I felt thanks to what they are either practicing fully, or attempting to practice.
And thus, this is what I should also practice. It seems that the month of April is the month in which I compile a list of things that I will practice in the next many years, or… until I die, I guess.
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