There are as many parenting styles as there are parents. And since all moms and dads want what’s best for their kids, the fact that they tend to be very opinionated about that shouldn’t come as a surprise.

The recent TikTok videos from a mother of four named Casara have created quite a stir on social media for her unorthodox approach to parenting. In a series of videos, Casara openly shared things she and her husband Juan allow their children do, from not forcing them go to college to allowing them to swear.

“We have a very open & honest relationship with our kids,” Casara claims, so let’s find out more about her parenting style, and be sure to share what you think in the comments!

Mom of four Casara took it to TikTok to share the things she allows her kids to do

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#1

My child does not have to give you a kiss, does not have to hug you, does not have to hang around you, does not have to do anything with you if they choose not to.

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Casara's videos sparked a heated discussion among parents online

#2

College. We will not force our kids to go to college if they don't want to. Let's face it, nobody really knows exactly what they wanna do, ever.

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Casara's videos sparked a heated discussion among parents online

#3

Our kids are allowed to swear. They know when they can swear, how they can swear, who they can swear around. They're allowed to swear. If you think that the worst thing your child can do is swear, then you have another thing coming. I said what I said.

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Casara's videos sparked a heated discussion among parents online

#4

If your kid hits my kid, my kid will knock your kid out and I will high five them.

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Casara's videos sparked a heated discussion among parents online

#5

Tattoos and piercings. Our kids are allowed to get piercings and they're allowed to get tattooed, with one exception to the tattoo. They have to wait till they're at least 16 and they have to have pondered on it, really thought about what they wanted, a good place for it to be at, and as long as the shop allows it at that age. Piercings, I feel like it's a way they express themselves. I don't see nothing wrong with piercings.

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Casara's videos sparked a heated discussion among parents online

#6

If my kid, teenager, is out and they're drinking with friends, and they call me, and they say: "Hey mom, I need you to come get me," I'm gonna get up and I'm gonna go get them. We will not talk about it until the next day. Let's face it, peer pressure is real, and people can't learn unless they make mistakes or do something they're not supposed to do.

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Casara's videos sparked a heated discussion among parents online

#7

We teach our kids at a young age what sex is, what their parts are, what drugs are, everything. We teach them everything at a very young age. That way they know what the consequences are. They know what the actions are, they know what the positivity to everything is, and they don't ever have to be ashamed of who they are.

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Casara's videos sparked a heated discussion among parents online

#8

My kids don't have a curfew. They respect that they have to be home at a reasonable time, and most of the time they're always at home anyways.

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Casara's videos sparked a heated discussion among parents online

#9

Religion. My first two kids I baptized, but my last two kids I did not baptize. I will allow them to choose if they wanna follow a religion, if they wanna believe in God, if they don't wanna believe in God. Whatever they feel is best for them.

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Casara's videos sparked a heated discussion among parents online

#10

Screen time, TV time. They're allowed to be on it for as long as they want, watch what they want, do what they want on their screen time.

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Casara's videos sparked a heated discussion among parents online

#11

If my kid needs a mental health day from school, whatever it is, I'm gonna let them take it. They don't have to be sick. We don't have to have something to do. We don't have to have any of that. For my kid to stay home, all they have to do is say: "Mom, I need a day to myself. I need a mental health day."

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Casara's videos sparked a heated discussion among parents online

#12

My kids can love/be with whoever they want. Color, race, gender, nationality. It does not matter. They can love and be with whoever they want, as long as they are treating each other right. That goes for my child treating them right and them treating my child right.

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Casara's videos sparked a heated discussion among parents online

#13

My kids are allowed to have social media when they're young. Yes, we will monitor it, but once they hit about 11-12, we will stop monitoring it. Because my kids know when to come to us if they need to tell us something or anything.

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Casara's videos sparked a heated discussion among parents online

#14

My son is 18 and I have taught him that if he wants to cry, then let them tears fall. It is okay to cry and let them tears fall. This misconception of telling men that they need to man up or that they're not a man because they're crying is [nonsense].

That is the reason why a lot of men are the way they are as far as not being open and being in touch with their feelings, and not all but some men.

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Casara's videos sparked a heated discussion among parents online