So this is my first blog, I am feeling so happy and positive about this new venture I wanted to share a little more with you all as to why myself and Mark have decided to start Big Girls Don’t Cry! I have always been a Big Girl, I have tried to lose weight, I have felt depressed and even hated myself at times. I have tried to change the person I am and I have tried to hide the real me. My weight and size has yo-yo’ed from a 22 to a 12 and many stages in between.
I have felt pressured to change which has come from many places, friends, media and partners but I have found a new confidence recently and I want to embrace the me that I am now. Of course there are things I would still like to change, I would like to be fitter which is a big goal over the next 12 months. Some days I want to lose weight, some days I wake up and I love all the curves and lumps and bumps.
Body positivity is something I have thought about a lot recently and it is such a hot topic on all the social media platforms and in the media. I love seeing women and men who are confident and sexy no matter what shape, size, height or weight they are. The body is a glorious thing in all its forms and we should celebrate that. I believe confidence is the sexiest thing someone can wear and I wanted to embrace that with this new business.
For years I have talked about setting up a company to provide and showcase lingerie and the naughty side of life for the plus size girl. Why Plus size? Because that’s what I am, it’s what I know and it’s what I am passionate about. Mark, the other half of the team has supported me for the last 7 years, he has been there when I have felt low, he has told me I am beautiful no matter how I look or what size I am because he loves me. He is my rock and with his help I have made my dream a reality. It is going to take a lot of hard work and it may not always be easy. We are learning and we may get things wrong but I am determined to make this dream a reality and we are one step closer.
Some people have commented on the use of the word “BIG” within the business title and I would like to address that here. I have read so many articles and blogs recently relating to the use of terms such as plus size, big, fat, curvy, thick, chunky etc. and I have felt compelled to reclaim those words. I don’t see them as a negative. They are a description. I am fat, I am big and I do have fabulous curves! I am not prepared to allow someone else to use those words in a negative way about me. I want to embrace those words and use them in a positive way. They do not define me and I will not be judged using them. For me the word is no different than saying someone is tall or slim or short or blonde or brunette. We may be those things but we are not defined by them!
So here it is BIG GIRLS DON’T CRY a website for Big Girls everywhere to find elegant and a little naughty lingerie and accessories.