Embrace death. Do not be morbid about it. You have one life to live so live it, knowing that you will eventually die. Everyone dies.
I wrote an article on sunk costs and why it’s okay to quit. This is part two of that article. Part of the reason that I wrote that article is because of the inevitably of Death. We are going to die. Embrace Death. Some of us are closer to death than others, but that does not matter. Carpe diem is a term synonymized with living life to the fullest. This is more than just living life to its fullest.
Go to bed every single night and review your day. Were you a good person? Did you own your reactions? Do you have any regrets? An evening reflection can help ensure that if you do not wake up tomorrow, you did your best. All that matters is doing your best. You do not have to do the best, just your best.
Defining your best
It sounds great to do your best every single day, but it’s very difficult. So much in life gets in the way. A bad day at work, where your boss or your client or your coworker upsets you. Coming home to a disaster with your children or with your pets. Looking at your bank account and seeing a checking account balance that scares you. All of these life things get in the way. And it’s easy to get upset over life.
What you can do to ensure that you’re doing your best is to Embrace life. Just like how you’ll embrace death, it’s important to embrace life, all the ups, and all the downs. Bad things can happen to you, every day, but if you react to those things and reflect properly, you can be your best. That’s why having a reflection routine is critical.
There are dozens of ways to reflect each evening. My preferred method is to review my day through a quick five-minute journal. Journaling is a timeless art, but it isn’t just putting pen to paper. An evening journal could be a voice memo, or it could be just thinking. The importance of reflection is to be aware that you’re doing it.
It’s a mindfulness exercise. When you take the time to reflect, you can be intentional. Depending on how seriously you’d like to take it, you could choose one night a week or one night a month to reflect on your reflections. If you really want to be your best and do your best, it’s important to have some way to track your progress.
What if you don’t wake up tomorrow?
Too many people end life with regrets. Many of the regrets have something to do with not giving up early enough. We’ve covered that. If you choose to remove your sunk costs, then you have a rare and unique opportunity to live your one life.
If you don’t wake up tomorrow, will today be the day that you’re okay going out on? You don’t have to get sad. Instead, you could become excited. Excited because you’re thinking about death in a way that allows you to live your life. Go to bed tonight knowing that you did everything you could today to grow, learn, and be your best. If you don’t think that you’re living your best you, then do something about it.
How to improve
Look in the mirror. Because our memories are terrible, log your reflection. Live, write, read, reflect. Live some more. Don’t be reckless. Give up the bad and add more good.
There are two ways to improve: remove the bad or add the good. Many people believe it’s all about adding good. Add more this or that. Everyone forgets that addition by subtraction is equivalent to addition by addition. While reflecting, think about all the bad you did and all the good you did and how you’re going to improve. Because we only have one life.
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