In the light of the recent controversy about the Intimidation of Meesha Shafi and Ali Zafar, people have used social media to press the news. to respond. While there are people who quickly stand up to support Meesha to come forward and be brave enough to speak, there are many others who shamefully cheat on her because they have spoken in a way that they do not agree with their understanding of how a victim of intimidation should respond.
Whatever your views, this incident started a very crucial discussion, just like the incident of the brave Sharmeen Obaid
Now we are going some Discuss the following: Reactions to see why certain people respond in a certain way when someone opens up to intimidation and maybe even discuss how someone should respond during such an incident
The goal is to address the mentality of victim injury. understand and also persuade people to look at the developments objectively:
1. "Isko khush hona chahiay ke harass kiya. Iski shakal toh dekho. "
Many people have brought their personal opinion about Meesha & # 39; s appearance.Because they do not meet their beauty requirements, they think that they must be hankful someone harassed her.
This statement shows no respect for the person who went through the experience, but at the same time it also reflects how men in particular, who are not have had intimidation experiences, do not think it's a big problem, and they think that intimidation is justified when it happens to someone they do not like.
Before you make such statements, you have to realize how ignorant The sexual assertion is not an experience that people like, and it should not be good for Women or men on the basis of the beauty gain of society
2. "Yeh kapray aise pehnti hai. Yehi hona tha. "
Among many comments, many also emphasized the fact that Meesha chooses to dress in a certain way, for many of them justifies a man's lack of control over his feelings and the need to Person to violate this
This idea stems from an abusive mindset of victims who has internalized patriarchal values. a woman is cautious instead of expecting men to behave because "boys become boys." However, this argument is incorrect because "modest dress" has never saved anyone from the looks, catcalling or violation of a person's body. examples of this in our own society Zainab-murder case is a good example, she was a child, well dressed, but that did not stop a man from doing the bad things to do what he did to her
3. "Court ko decide to do karnay."
Many people have rightly chosen not to take sides. Their argument is that they can not choose a party unless the case is brought to court and the court decides who is the right one.
Meesha shafi has all rights to accuse someone of sexual harassment but we should not start sham ali zafar until we know both sides of the story and prove it.
If she is right, we should take boycott and ali zafar as an example. The same applies to meesha if she is wrong
– Waleed Nasir (@ waleednasir00) 19 April 2018
This is a balanced approach for people who do not want to take sides and want to leave the law do his job. The reason why this approach is harmless is because these people are not a slurping mud on someone's character or choice of lifestyle.
4. "Achay khasay banday ka career kharaab kar rahi hai."
Some think that making such claims on a public platform will ruin his career and that should have been avoided. This is so because they believe " taali do haathon se bajti hai ".
The first thing to notice here is the attitude of victim-shattering claim that she must have been involved. This is a clear assumption of part of the person mentioned. If someone is sexually harassed or abused, is that always the fault of the victim? Let's use the case of Zainab again, would you say " taali do haathon se bajti hai " also for her?
Even for people who think this is more about their career than a person who has been violated, they have to understand the trauma that people experience when they experience something like that. Or take no assumption about who is right or not in the first place, or do that with complete facts, and without the mentality of the shaming of the victim.
5. "Abb kyun yaad aa raha hai isay yeh?"
"Why do these women come so late with stories? Why do not they report it immediately?" 
When a celebrity woman can not let someone start accuse him of something, why do not they stop bullying then can you even think about it?
– Tariq Mahmood (@ TariqTariq786) April 19, 2018
This is a very ignorant statement to start with, especially if you & # 39; I had such an experience. It takes a lot of courage to be open to these experiences. Because of the embarrassing mentality of society, people are constantly talking about the incident to make sure that what you thought happened was actually happening and you were not at all to blame.
6. "Uski family hai aur woh women's rights ki baat karta hai."
"A family man can not do such a thing."
Only because someone has a family does not mean that they can not surrender to such behavior. The example of Patari CEO Khalid Bajwa is an example. If only daughters and a woman were to stop anyone, the world would have been a much better place
People often pay lip service to what they think the trend is. These are called fighters for social justice, which are the cause of publicity, even though they do not believe it.
7. "Adult aurton ko koi harassment nahi kar sakta."
Many think that if a woman is an adult, intimidation can not take place.
There is no such thing as adult women who are not harassed. Harassment can happen to anyone and everywhere. People who harass you do not care whether you are an adult or not. Yes, if this is a reference to women who put an end to it, it also varies from person to person. Usually the experience is so shocking that you remain fixated and can not act.
8. "Inko paisay miltay hain aisi baaton ke."
"These sluts and whores are paid to create this drama."
Again this is an important assumption for a part of the people and it is partly a result of people's ideas about women in the entertainment industry. While men in one way or another retain their honor and character despite the industry in which they work, women who join this industry are automatically labeled as whores.
It is not fair to judge these situations on the basis of stereotypes. And I can only wonder who she would pay to make these claims.
9. "Intimidation ko samjhnay ki zaroorat hai."
"The term intimidation is very ambiguous used in the country."
I wonder what sexual harassment is for ppl from the fashion industry like ?? Hamare cock to larki ka song maang lain ya ghalti se small finger bhi touch ho jaye to sexual harassment ka case ho jata #meeshaShafi #Alizafar
– Imran Nazir (@ ImraanNazir17) April 19, 2018
This is completely correct. Because of the lack of legislative work to address this problem, many mistakenly use the term intimidation. And it is not only limited to the law of the country, but people are generally also very confused. Because of the lack of research, they tend to use intimidation to emphasize cases that would otherwise not be categorized as intimidation.
The purpose of these remarks is to emphasize the way in which one can objectively view a situation, irrespective of the stereotypes of society and its hatred of women
As a spectator, our opinion does not matter. Whether you choose Meesha or Ali, the time during a person's accusation is to shut up and listen, to give the victim a safe place to speak their truth and to have the suspect answered. If the defendant has actually carried out the harassment, they must be arrested, but if a victim is ashamed before it is proven that something is wrong, many such victims end up in a vulnerable position where they will never open up and put an end to it. the toxic prevalence of intimidation.