“10 ways to know he loves you”

“5 ways that indicate he is after you”

“Just 8 steps away from winning her”

“Why she is Wife material”

“He is a cheat if he does these things”

“3 ways to make him stay”

“How to know he is interested in you”

“She is miss right if she does these to you”

Such are the links that most folks ripe for Marriage are quick to click on. So appealing are the headings that leave us baying for more hiding in the belief that they speak to us, at an opportune time. Worst of all, our digital footprints are spread all over that such pop up every time we converse with the world virtually.

But, is it wise to steal glances at such links? Are they real? Do they speak life? 
The Good Book ain’t shy to remind us that marriage is ordained by God and two becoming one is nothing of our own making but His own divinely crafted will. Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother, hold fast to his wife and they shall become one flesh. There can never be a union that ain’t heterosexual and monogamous yet claim the title ” marriage”. Away with same sex marriage, away with polygamy. 
Question is.. So how does one know s/he is the one? I am no expert in dating and relationships but , the Bible, puts it rightly, that prayer is the only path to finding that significant other meant for thee and when the path gets clearer, one will have to open up to the other. S/he has to be told of those affectionate feelings thriving in one’s heart then boom…..

 Dating and courtship sets in. Then marriage that starts right from the vowing, for better and worse, sickness and health, good and bad till death parts thee.

Therein, loyalty is to the husband from the wife and to the wife is love from the husband, just like Christ loves the church. Faithfulness is not a subject up for discussion, its a command. 

Imagine a world unfaithful to the core, would it be worth the hustle?

The pleasantly welcoming and juicy world view on how men and women quantify as well as qualify worthiness to each other or for the other only serves as a path to moral decay if not pervasion. I would dare say, to sin. As a matter of fact, no one is worthy, no not one. Ours is just but filthy rags before Him who is pure and Love. So away with these links. To all exists a higher calling, that of walking as children of the light in thought, words and deeds. A decision to commit to the other rests on the happiness and contentment that will result from the relationship and the joy that will flow from the heavens when things are done right from the word go. If the end goal is not marriage, its not worth any flexing of the muscle, not an inch. His perfection will fill the two that they end up one, no longer two. Marriage is a beautiful gift from the perfect one. 
To the elephant is the room, what s/he stops loving? Could it be s/he wasn’t the one? Simple…. His/her love for Christ and walk in Him tells it all. Read from that script.
But again, you can’t just sit back and watch your marriage fail, you need to stand up and be counted, sit, talk it out. Remind yourselves of those vows, of the hey days and when the environment is set, hold hands, steadfastly pray together, make peace with God and with each other….. If the love for each other supersedes that of God, there is a problem, big problem. In fact, such is that red sign that calls for action, back to the drawing board. In whom is your union anchored? 

Happy times, happy marriage, happy courtship people. 
To God be the Glory………..
With Love,
Chemy.