This morning I came across a post by Doreen Virtue which really inspired me to share my personal experience of how releasing fear-energy is essential for manifesting your dreams.
But first of all, here's what Doreen wrote:
"Chasing after anything has an underlying fear-energy of, "Maybe this won't happen unless I force it to happen." This fear-energy then attracts fear-based results, such as delays and blocks.Keep working toward your dreams, but do so with love-based energy such as faith, excitement, and joy.If something seems stuck or delayed, detach from the situation. Distract yourself with other activities. Or convince yourself that you don't care. The moment you let go of the fear-energy, movement will happen again. Do keep in mind, though, that blocks can be God's way of pointing you in a different and better direction. Have faith, and don't chase or force anything." -Doreen Virtue on facebook, 29th July 2015
And this is my personal story of how I had to stop trying to force things to happen, in order to receive my own miracle, at the very perfect timing:
Lesson1: "Chasing after anything has an underlying fear-energy of " this won't happen unless I force it to happen." "
My own miracle was to conceive the beautiful baby I'm going to give birth to in about 8 weeks. I've always known that I want to be a mother in this lifetime and thus was so excited when my husband and I were finally able to start "trying". But at the same time I was terribly scared of things not working out for us. After all, the word "trying" already suggests that things might or might not work out. As months went by without anything happening, I eventually decided to start to actively do something to make my body and mind balenced and manifest the pregnancy I wished for. For me "something" meant practicing yoga and meditating every day while saying my affirmative prayers and connecting with the angels. At that time I just started getting back to using affirmations and prayers (I've been practicing it successfully as a teenager but somehow just shut down on spiritual stuff at some point) and despite knowing that it works, I still had doubts that it could make such a huge and important miracle happen for me.
Deep inside I knew that I had to let go of my worries and impatience in order to allow things to unfold naturally, but I was still desperately seeking for the answer to when things would happen. I did so many card readings about that topic and talked about it with the heavenly realm regularly. And despite the messages being over all positive, I was still obsessed with the when.
I knew I had to let go, but I just couldn't!
Lesson 2: "This fear-energy then attracts fear-based results, such as delays and blocks."
When I pictured the year ahead in january 2014, I always saw myself pregnant by Christmas/the end of the year. So when 2015 started and there was still no obvious result in my quest for a baby, I started to feel very disappointed... but still tried to tell myself that it must happen soon. Only a few weeks later I had a check-up with my doctor. And the first thing she mentioned was how my husband and I should consider taking fertility tests! When I was back home I just burst into tears.
(Note: I still think it was quite unecessary for my doctor to suggest that we should take fertility tests at that point because we weren't trying for that long. But I now know she just wanted me to have certainty and not to loose time if there actually would have been the need of a fertility treatment.)
I was devastated, angry and felt like such a failure. But at the same time I felt like laughing. Really. I felt like my mind was terribly upset but my soul was laughing about a very good joke. I tried to ask my guardian angel what I should do in this entire fertility issue, but he just laughed and refused to tell me the details, but that I'd soon see what's so funny about it.
Lesson 3 : If something seems stuck or delayed, detach from the situation. Distract yourself with other activities."
I felt miserable for 2 days. But I then decided that I need to change something. I just couldn't go on like this, focusing my entire life on my wish for a baby while ignoring all the other wonderful aspects of it. I decided to choose happiness over frustration and to concentrate on all the great things I had instead of what I had not. I also decided that I don't want any fertility test made. If there was a soul that chose us as parents, it would find its way into our lives no matter how. I accepted the idea that what's meant to be will happen at the perfect time, and that I don't need to do or force anything about it. I finally managed to let go. Let go of the urge to force things to happen, of the need of control and validation, of all the worries and fear based energy that had built up during the past months. I even wrote down a "sacred contract" with myself about how I commit myself to let go of it! I detached from the situation and distracted myself with other activities and goals (booked flights to Scotland, made plans for our new home, decided to improve my yoga practice, etc.) and most of all accepted that whatever would happen or not, it would be perfect. And accepting this truth, I didn't have to worry about it anymore. I had replaced my energy of fear by and energy of joy and freedom. That's how I got unstuck and things started moving again...!
Lesson 4: "The moment you let go of the fear-energy, movement will happen again".
About a week after having made the comittment to let go, I felt so much better. But at the same time I started receiving messages (dreaming and "seeing" things in my mind, or a sudden flash of insight) that pointed out that a soul had chosen us. I was delighted with this message, but just saw it as a sign that at some point into our lives this little soul would come to us.
Another week passed and I found myself in the bathroom staring at a stick showing two lines. I couldn't actually believe it until I had an ultrasound made. But it was very true! Little soul was already on its way and had been so since late december 2014!!! So I eventually found out what my soul and angel had been laughing about: I had made all this drama worrying about infertility when I was already pregnant all along!
One might think that me conceiving isn't related to the fact that I let go of my fears, since I technically already was pregnant when I did so. But I know it is (I also think we shouldn't insist too much on the linearity of time regarding such things! ). Deep inside I knowth that I had to go through this disappointment and the process of letting go in order to make the miracle happen. To me it is obvious that finding out I was pregnant was the reward for learning the lesson. The lesson to trust, have faith and stop trying to force and control things.
Lesson 5: "blocks can be God's way of pointing you in a different and better direction."
And it really did happen at the right, divinely guided time. My baby is due only 1 day after my own birth was due 26 years earlier, and my intention and intuition about being pregnant by the end of 2014 eventually turned out true as well. The more, the timing couldn't have been more perfect regarding us moving to a new home and many other aspects of our private lives.
I just know that it all is divinely guided and I'm actually grateful for it not happening earlier and for the empowering lessons I've learned from it.
But first of all, here's what Doreen wrote:
"Chasing after anything has an underlying fear-energy of, "Maybe this won't happen unless I force it to happen." This fear-energy then attracts fear-based results, such as delays and blocks.Keep working toward your dreams, but do so with love-based energy such as faith, excitement, and joy.If something seems stuck or delayed, detach from the situation. Distract yourself with other activities. Or convince yourself that you don't care. The moment you let go of the fear-energy, movement will happen again. Do keep in mind, though, that blocks can be God's way of pointing you in a different and better direction. Have faith, and don't chase or force anything." -Doreen Virtue on facebook, 29th July 2015
And this is my personal story of how I had to stop trying to force things to happen, in order to receive my own miracle, at the very perfect timing:
Lesson1: "Chasing after anything has an underlying fear-energy of " this won't happen unless I force it to happen." "
My own miracle was to conceive the beautiful baby I'm going to give birth to in about 8 weeks. I've always known that I want to be a mother in this lifetime and thus was so excited when my husband and I were finally able to start "trying". But at the same time I was terribly scared of things not working out for us. After all, the word "trying" already suggests that things might or might not work out. As months went by without anything happening, I eventually decided to start to actively do something to make my body and mind balenced and manifest the pregnancy I wished for. For me "something" meant practicing yoga and meditating every day while saying my affirmative prayers and connecting with the angels. At that time I just started getting back to using affirmations and prayers (I've been practicing it successfully as a teenager but somehow just shut down on spiritual stuff at some point) and despite knowing that it works, I still had doubts that it could make such a huge and important miracle happen for me.
Deep inside I knew that I had to let go of my worries and impatience in order to allow things to unfold naturally, but I was still desperately seeking for the answer to when things would happen. I did so many card readings about that topic and talked about it with the heavenly realm regularly. And despite the messages being over all positive, I was still obsessed with the when.
I knew I had to let go, but I just couldn't!
Lesson 2: "This fear-energy then attracts fear-based results, such as delays and blocks."
When I pictured the year ahead in january 2014, I always saw myself pregnant by Christmas/the end of the year. So when 2015 started and there was still no obvious result in my quest for a baby, I started to feel very disappointed... but still tried to tell myself that it must happen soon. Only a few weeks later I had a check-up with my doctor. And the first thing she mentioned was how my husband and I should consider taking fertility tests! When I was back home I just burst into tears.
(Note: I still think it was quite unecessary for my doctor to suggest that we should take fertility tests at that point because we weren't trying for that long. But I now know she just wanted me to have certainty and not to loose time if there actually would have been the need of a fertility treatment.)
I was devastated, angry and felt like such a failure. But at the same time I felt like laughing. Really. I felt like my mind was terribly upset but my soul was laughing about a very good joke. I tried to ask my guardian angel what I should do in this entire fertility issue, but he just laughed and refused to tell me the details, but that I'd soon see what's so funny about it.
Lesson 3 : If something seems stuck or delayed, detach from the situation. Distract yourself with other activities."
I felt miserable for 2 days. But I then decided that I need to change something. I just couldn't go on like this, focusing my entire life on my wish for a baby while ignoring all the other wonderful aspects of it. I decided to choose happiness over frustration and to concentrate on all the great things I had instead of what I had not. I also decided that I don't want any fertility test made. If there was a soul that chose us as parents, it would find its way into our lives no matter how. I accepted the idea that what's meant to be will happen at the perfect time, and that I don't need to do or force anything about it. I finally managed to let go. Let go of the urge to force things to happen, of the need of control and validation, of all the worries and fear based energy that had built up during the past months. I even wrote down a "sacred contract" with myself about how I commit myself to let go of it! I detached from the situation and distracted myself with other activities and goals (booked flights to Scotland, made plans for our new home, decided to improve my yoga practice, etc.) and most of all accepted that whatever would happen or not, it would be perfect. And accepting this truth, I didn't have to worry about it anymore. I had replaced my energy of fear by and energy of joy and freedom. That's how I got unstuck and things started moving again...!
Lesson 4: "The moment you let go of the fear-energy, movement will happen again".
About a week after having made the comittment to let go, I felt so much better. But at the same time I started receiving messages (dreaming and "seeing" things in my mind, or a sudden flash of insight) that pointed out that a soul had chosen us. I was delighted with this message, but just saw it as a sign that at some point into our lives this little soul would come to us.
Another week passed and I found myself in the bathroom staring at a stick showing two lines. I couldn't actually believe it until I had an ultrasound made. But it was very true! Little soul was already on its way and had been so since late december 2014!!! So I eventually found out what my soul and angel had been laughing about: I had made all this drama worrying about infertility when I was already pregnant all along!
One might think that me conceiving isn't related to the fact that I let go of my fears, since I technically already was pregnant when I did so. But I know it is (I also think we shouldn't insist too much on the linearity of time regarding such things! ). Deep inside I knowth that I had to go through this disappointment and the process of letting go in order to make the miracle happen. To me it is obvious that finding out I was pregnant was the reward for learning the lesson. The lesson to trust, have faith and stop trying to force and control things.
Lesson 5: "blocks can be God's way of pointing you in a different and better direction."
And it really did happen at the right, divinely guided time. My baby is due only 1 day after my own birth was due 26 years earlier, and my intention and intuition about being pregnant by the end of 2014 eventually turned out true as well. The more, the timing couldn't have been more perfect regarding us moving to a new home and many other aspects of our private lives.
I just know that it all is divinely guided and I'm actually grateful for it not happening earlier and for the empowering lessons I've learned from it.
"Have faith, and don't chase or force anything."
