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Avoid Passing Your Emotional Wounds On To Your Kids

The last thing any Parent wants to do is pass their Emotional Wounds on to their children. How Parents Can Avoid Passing On Their Emotional Wounds to Their Kids Parenting is the hardest job in the world, and I see parents as heroes, sacrificing much of their own comfort and happiness for the sake of their children’s well-being. It’s easy to criticize parents for not being perfect but what would be more helpful would be some constructive tips on how to maximize their skills for the best possible outcomes. One of the sadder things I’ve witnessed in my years as a psychotherapist is the parent who loves their kids, but somehow, these kids still grow up with considerable emotional wounds. It’s understandable to me that abusive or neglectful parents would end up with emotionally wounded children, but loving parents? That seems contradictory. The explanation is this: a parent who carries emotional wounds from their own childhood trauma will inadvertently pass on their dysfunctional coping strategies to their children. This is because our children learn from us in three ways: how we treat them; what we teach them, and what we model to them. We can treat our children with love and affection. We can give them the best guidance and advice, but if we don’t believe in ourselves, if we’re extremely self-critical, or if we have serious addictions or other problems our kids can take after us in the negative things even more than in the positive ones. Sadly, childhood trauma goes so deep that even the strongest love for our children won’t prevent the wounds of the past from affecting them; most especially if we’re unaware of what’s happening, and we don’t intervene. I’ve seen this outcome in my practice far too often to think that it’s some strange...

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