How mature are you in your Love relationships? How Do You Love? When I observe how people engage in romantic relationships, it seems that they do this in one of two ways: either from the perspective of a child or from that of an Adult. People who pursue love from an adult perspective are looking for companionship, romance, a life partner. They’re realistic about what the other person has to offer, but they won’t settle for less than what will make them truly happy. They understand that while love is enriching and meaningful, it can’t make up for what’s missing in their lives or be the center of their existence. The adult who pursues love won’t stay in a bad relationship just for the sake of being with somebody, and they won’t tolerate mistreatment, as they know that this isn’t preferable to being alone. An autonomous, self-sufficient adult would rather be alone than with someone disappointing or hurtful. In an adult relationship, both people are intact, fully-functioning members of society with their own lives and interests. They bring out the best in each other and feel good about themselves when they’re with their partner. People in adult relationships aren’t constantly frustrated with their partner, complaining about them or passive-aggressively leaking anger at them. Adults are willing to work on a relationship that they feel is worth saving, but they’re able to walk away when it’s clear that it no longer makes sense to stay together. Adults don’t cheat. If they’re unhappy with their relationship, they address the issues directly. If they develop feelings for someone else, they explore what’s driving this attraction and then choose either to resist temptation or to end their current relationship. They don’t act out in ways that are hurtful to themselves or others. People who...

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