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Is Marriage a Cause of Loss of Separate Identity?

The Idea of Losing One’s Separate Identity “No man is an island,” said 17th-century author John Donne. This is true in Marriage. Spouses do become interdependent in many ways. But this does not force each of them to give up their separate identity. It is important to keep one’s individuality after tying the knot. Yet, none of us is totally self-sufficient. In fact, just about everyone depends on car mechanics, airplane pilots, farmers, friends, accountants, therapists, and others. Certainly, in a good marriage, we rely on our marriage partner. We respect each other’s individuality and connect as romantic partners and as lifetime teammates.   Balancing Independence and Interdependence Here is how one wife explains how she views her marriage: Amy says, “I think of my marriage as a three-stranded braid. One strand is me, a separate person. Another is Michael. The third strand is our relationship.” She is describing her marriage as a union of two individuals who are both independent and interdependent. Until recently, the roles of men and women were fixed and interdependent. Usually, the husband earned the money (or brought home the kill). His wife had a separate identity, where she cooked and kept the home fires burning. Today, in many good marriages, spouses are interdependent in different ways. Either partner can be the “provider” or homemaker. Often, both jobs are shared. Some couples have “commuter” marriages, living in different states or on different coasts in the U.S. because of where they work. They may spend weekends and vacations together. Other couples are business partners. They may share an office at home or elsewhere, which means they are likely to experience plenty of togetherness and interdependence. People also need different amounts of time spent together and separately order to feel good about themselves and their relationship.  ...

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