We’ve seen your tweets and your comments on FetLife. Sorry boys, but you’re making it much too easy for some of us. There is a skill and an art to paying a woman a real compliment. Here are a few tips to help you hone your craft.
- Catch Her Off Guard: Sure you should tell Her that She looks good when She steps into the room after spending time getting ready to go out to an event or when She comes home from the salon. Don’t be an asshole. But, if that’s the only time you drop some flattery, then you’re missing the boat. Tell Her something nice when She doesn’t expect it, when She’s feeling low or when you’re taking notice of Her will surprise Her.
- Be Specific: Details make a compliment transcend mere words. Notice how Her hands looks when She grabs that flogger, the way Her corset hugs Her sexy hips or the way Her voice sounds when She whispers in your ear. Pay attention to all the little things She does and tell Her how they make you marvel every time She does them.
- Be Thoughtful: Think about the things She doesn’t love about Herself, the things that make Her feel less than pretty. Think about the ones that don’t matter to you or that you see differently. Don’t tell Her that She is wrong. Au contraire. Instead, just tell Her you like them and appreciate them. She isn’t beautiful in spite of them, She is beautiful because of them.
- Be Original: Yes, telling Her that She is pretty is nice. She’d probably like to hear you say that you love Her tits. But there is so much more that makes Her glorious in your eyes. What about the way Her lips curl up when She smiles, how Her calves look in a pair of heals or how She carries Herself when She walks into a crowded room. She’s not every woman. She is unique. So tell Her what makes Her stand apart from every other woman.
- Compliment Her Mind: So often, we get caught up on a woman’s appearance, but Her body is such a small part of what makes Her sexy. The things She says, the attitude She carries, the person and the personality that She is, those are so much more about what makes my Mistress sexy. Her face and body may have caught my eye, but it is who and how She is that claimed my heart, my head and my soul.
- Tell Her She Is Strong: So often women are portrayed as weak. None of them are. The bullshit they wade through day after day just being women proves just how superior women are to men. Call Her on a moment of strength and tell Her how She inspires you.
- Don’t Be Easy or Cheesy: A little cornball goes a long way. Almost all compliments have the potential to come off as hollow flattery or at least corny. Your sincerity and thoughtfulness will help steer you clear of coming off too douchy.
- Share Your Heart: Tell Her how all these little things make you feel. It’s not enough to just say they are nice. Telling Her how She affects you is what truly turns a compliment into into something beyond the words you speak. Try starting here: “I lose my breath every time you do X,” or “Every time I see you wearing X, I just can’t help but stare,” or “There’s something so magical about the way you enter a room.”
It’s really not hard, but as with everything, dropping a well-played compliment takes work and practice. You can do it, and honestly, the Women in all of our lives deserve it.
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