The present-day dating scenario for the average urban single girl is moving beyond the three stages their mothers told them to expect–from boyfriend to fiance and eventually , husband.
The reality of relationships these days is far from simple, with working titles floating around the dating world that are often precursors to real relationships. Take, for example, Hollywood films like No Strings Attached and Friends With Benefits that explored the tricky waters of these phases, or even Bollywood rom-com I Hate Luv Storys. They tell stories that are far more real among young couples today.
FWB (FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS)
Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis starrer Friends With Benefits sums up this increasingly common casual Dating Scenario of a commitment-free involvement that has the perks of both, friendship and physical intimacy . It’s a dream set-up as long as both people enjoy each other’s company and there is a mutual understanding that it won’t turn into anything more.
Strictly physical, a Booty Call is the kind of association where you don’t keep in touch with each other, text or call, except for a rendezvous.This association is practically zero on emotional bonding, but could evolve into FWB.
One step ahead of booty call and one behind FWB is hooking up, when you’re regularly meeting for a steamy rendezvous and also talking on the phone pretty much every day . Both of you are attracted to each other, physically and emotionally as well. However, you haven’t yet had THAT talk -read `where is this going?’.
Log on to your social network and you’ll notice that this status is more popular than `in a relationship’ or `single’. This could mean that either of you is unsure of its current sta tus and is waiting to make things official. How you see the bond may be different from how your partner perceives it.
However, being in the limbo of `it’s complicat ed’ only makes things harder for the heart.
This is more of a dating approach than a label. It gives new meaning to our notions of fidelity. In a monogamous relationship, both people are committed to each other, for better or worse. Serial Monogamy is pretty much the same, except that you live for the moment. A serial monogamist has several happy relationships over short periods of time, but at no point does this person cheat on a partner.
The guy takes you out for movie and dinner dates. He happily pays the bill and opens doors for you. You have great chemistry and many long conversations. However, he could be courting several other girls in the same way , at the same time, if the unwritten rules of Modern Dating are to be followed.
This is a stage couples are arriving at after they’ve mutually decided to be exclusively committed to each other -cheating is a strict no-no -have met each other’s friends, do many activities together and hang out with each other plenty of times.
This is when you are tagged `girlfriend’ or `boyfriend’, usually marked by a change in social media status to `in a relationship’. This is when people start posting couplies (couple selfies) and braggies (travel pics clicked together) and let the world know.