Ladies have had it hammered into our heads what a ‘nice girl’ is, and it makes us self conscious about asking for things we really want. Plus, we fear that if we do ask, you’ll somehow think less of us… so just read our minds, OK?
While this may be the age of ‘female liberation’, a lot of us girls are still hesitant about expressing our needs and wants in the bedroom. We always know what you want - men are much less hesitant about expressing their fantasies - but when was the last time you anticipated your woman’s desires and got that surprised happy look that left you thinking - “I wish I knew she liked that ages ago!” Here’s a tip for you - if you like it done to you, she probably likes it done to her, too…
You’ve probably got no problem with making your wishes known either by outright asking for it or simply exerting a little pressure on top of our head (we HATE that, by the way. Beg, instead - we like the power rush!) It’s a little more complicated for us - we worry constantly about our hygiene ‘down there’ and are afraid you’ll think we’re ‘nasty’ if we ask for a little reciprocation. Doesn’t mean we don’t fantasize about it though - just pick up any bodice ripper and see how many scenes have the hero underneath the heroine’s skirts!
If she has you, she doesn’t need anything else - right? That’s what we’re afraid you’re thinking, so we won’t ask for a vibrator in case you might take it as a strike to your masculinity. But why not? You might find she’s much more enthusiastic about giving you oral if she has something to do with her hands in the meantime - so consider giving her a surprise gift certificate and letting her pick out a little sumpin’--a sumpin' all her own!
We know you’re anxious to get to the main event, but put the brakes on what your little head is telling you to do and focus on getting her head in the right space. Foreplay isn’t just about cuddles and kisses - it’s about warming up our engine. We take a little longer to get to a thousand RPMs, but trust me - when we do, it’s worth it. You haven’t had good sex until you’ve had sex with a woman who’s doing more than a When Harry Met Sally imitation.
You want the naughty nurse and the French maid? Well, we have Fantasy lives too. We Love a man in Uniform - something about the peaked little military cap just flat does it for us. Again, we won’t ask in case you’d worry about ‘not being enough for us just as you are’ - but that never stopped you asking us to role play, did it? Get your gallant soldier uniform on and your little soldier might get some unexpectedly hot action!
A great way to discover your sweetheart’s secret fantasy is to ask - in the dark, with the lights out. Make her feel safe by promising not to judge - it’s ‘just talk’, no need to ever act on it - then just lay back and prepare to be surprised at the inventive things she thinks about but is too shy to say! Then you can make her dreams come true without making her come out and ask. She’ll love you for it!