I'm currently taking Tibetan Buddhist classes through an FMPT affiliated centre and I've hit a roadblock regarding some of my values. I'd like some Advice from some more experienced practitioners. I ultimately want to be able to reconcile my values and experience peace so I can focus on pure dharma.

My first concern is patriarchy. It's obvious that this is a very male dominated sect, and I worry that might have a negative effect on me. Secondly, I listened to a video on YouTube where a nun was talking about how western monastics and lay people have to pay to stay in the centres even here in the west, and that are being exploited rather than supported. She said that an overwhelming percentage of the ordained are burning out and disrobing because of this. She said that by supporting these centres, we are colluding in the oppression.

I found language quite strong and it really unsettled me. I don't want to collude in anyone's oppression or be oppressed myself. The thing is though, Tibetan Buddhism has really awoken the dharma in me. I really do want to be involved. But I have trouble with the idea of supoorting Institutions which are both patriachal and discriminatory. I can seperate that out from the dharma, but I'm at the stage on my path where I'm investing a lot into learning and practicing. I do need to be affiliated and to take refuge in a teacher but how can I do this and keep my peace?